You are starving. You stare intensely at the small fixings of grass and strand of meat on your plate – this is your dinner. Actually, this is your dinner and evening snack; because earlier today you shoveled down too many rice cake mini’s and now you only have 200 calories left for today. What your body wants right now doesn’t matter. What you want right now doesn’t matter. You are on a diet and you don’t deserve anything more. And so you go hungry.

While I’m certainly not an advocate of over eating or stuffing ourselves endlessly, with over salted, over sugared, hydrogenated junk; I don’t believe that starvation or deprivation should ever be on the menu. Not only does this (nearly impossible to maintain, exhausting, unnatural) method of weight management not work; but what most women don’t know is that wreaks havoc on our abilities to love/trust ourselves.

Okay so let me say a little bit more about this. Anytime we as women, ignore our feelings, stop listening to your bodies and tell ourselves that we can’t have what we want, we interrupt our divine flow of self-love.  More specifically, we unconsciously send messages out into the universe (and to ourselves), that we don’t know what we want, that we are undeserving of more and that our intuition is not to be trusted.

When you think about it, if we can’t even trust ourselves enough to know when to eat or not, it really isn’t that surprising that we don’t trust ourselves with love. So many of us lack the self-trust required to fall in love. And even when we do fall in love, we don’t seem to trust ourselves enough to take the necessary acts of courage to sustain it.

Little by little our senses dull.  We stop licking the yummy batter left over in the bottom of the mixing bowl. We let the nice guy who just paid for dinner, run his hand on our thigh even though we are not quite ready for that yet. And even after many years of marriage, we continue to fake orgasms, because we don’t want to hurt our partner’s feelings.

We starve ourselves loveless.

Whether your goal is to lose weight or to find love, I want you to know that you don’t ever have to starve or deprive yourself of anything, to achieve the results that you are looking for. You can start producing results almost instantly by focusing on 3 key laws. I call these, The Three Keys Of Womanly Self-Love ™. These involve gaining mastery of our:

1. Feelings – Getting deeply connected to your feelings. (Never ignoring your feelings).
2. Body– Listening to your body.
3. Intuition – Trusting your intuition.

A good chunk of the work that I do with women, involves them gaining full access to these keys and using them to unlock hidden doors.

I know you may not believe this right now. But you were born with everything you needed to know. You know how much to eat. You know what you want. You are deserving. Your intuition is the one compass you can always trust without question.

The next time you sit down to eat, remind yourself the meal before you so much more than a quick fix. It is the way you live and the way you love.

Eat, allowing yourself to be intoxicated by the sweet aromas and enlivened by rich colours.  Smile, letting the juices tickle each and every taste bud.  Lean back and give thanks that you gave up the diet, because the moment you did you stopped starving. The moment you did you started listening. The moment you did you declared you were deserving. The moment you did you started trusting. And in this moment, present to your power, you will never go hungry again.

Love Renee