Let’s face it, being human isn’t getting any easier. Every day we are faced with constant demands, a slew of endless commitments, conflicting desires; and a little over zero seconds to process it all. In fact some of us have gotten so disconnected from ourselves, that we’ve outsourced thinking, choosing and self-trust.
Who needs intuition, when there’s Glamour magazine to tell us 10 ways to know if our boyfriend’s really likes us or not, our parent’s to tell us that it was a crazy idea to quit our job even though we were miserable and our best friend’s who will never let us forget that one time in 1999 when we had a few too many glasses of wine, and missed our 9 am with the client (which is why we never attend socials on a week night anymore)– right?
Um no.
Now let me be perfectly clear, by no means am I saying that we should cancel our subscriptions to glamour magazine or or check out when our parents are giving us advice or tell our friend to lay that decade and a half old story to rest. What I am saying, is that it is time for us to wake up and be aware of what is driving our thoughts, our choices and our actions, because if they are not our own, they are likely not coming from a place of self trust and self-love – the foundation upon which everything we manifest in our lives is created. And when we create anything in our lives from a place of force, obligation or morality, no matter how good others feel about it, we never feel truly satisfied or happy.
Before you read any further, I’d like you to take a moment now to stop and notice just how often you rely on someone else’s advice, opinions or something you read to make choices. Now take another moment to notice how often you make specific choices to avoid looking rude, selfish or stupid. Okay good, now take another moment now to see how often, when faced with a decision to make, you take a moment to stop and check in with your Self about what you want, what you think is best (without the consultation or approval of others) and then do just that… Shocking isn’t it? Most of us aren’t even aware of how little we use our intuition and how often our needs are factored out of the equation. And while I know that every person is different and we each have more or less incidences for in each answer, in working with hundreds of women over the years, I have yet to meet a woman, for whom self-trust and self-love practice is not essential. I have all kinds of rituals, ceremonies and practices that I offer my clients depending on their specific needs and here are 3 of my favourites:
- Get ready for work in complete darkness. Yes that means shower in the dark, pick out and put on your clothes in the dark. Do your makeup in the dark, prepare your breakfast and eat it in the dark. Leave the house without checking any mirrors. I know this sounds a little extreme, but people are always so delighted by how much their other senses are heightened and how alive they feel afterwards. This exercise allows you to practice using other senses that have become quite dull, enhancing our intuitive perception.
- Find a town on the map that you know nothing, then convince your girlfriends to go away with you for a weekend to that town. Now here is the trick, none of you are not allowed to prepare anything in advance or plan anything in advance. Pick the date, pack your bags and away you all go. It’s you and the open road, using only intuition to make choices. This exercise, has you relinquish control, keeps you being in the moment and challenges you to use your feelings to know what you need and guide you.
- Stop talking, texting and writing for a day. Use only your eyes to communicate (no hand gestures). This exercise can be particularly challenging, however, why it’s so great, is that it allows you to breakthrough your dependency on language. The less language we use, the more intuitive awareness we develop. Don’t forget to tell your loved one’s that you are doing this, so they don’t wake up thinking that you’ve gone mad.
There are many other less or more daring ways to practice using your intuition, increase self-trust, ultimately resulting in a more solid foundation of self-love. The more you challenge your Self, the easier and more natural it is for you make solid, powerful choices that serve you.
In the end we want to look back on our lives and know that we loved with everything we had and lived with everything we had. Sometimes glamour magazine, our parent and our friends are right, but it is a solid foundation of self-love that gives us the power to make the choices we need to even when we are the only one’s who believe in our hearts that it is right.
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