HOW TO STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER
We’re all guilty of doing this from time to time… What am I talking about? PEOPLE PLEASING. Have you ever noticed just how guilty or bad you feel when you have to say ‘no’ to someone? Or how you will bend, twist yourself into a human pretzel, climb Everest, do back flips, slave, wring your spirit completely dry and use every last ounce of your energy just so you can say ‘yes’ to someone’s request? Insane right? And yet so many of us can’t see him to stop saying ‘yes’ when we really ought to say ‘no’.
When we lack the will power to say ‘no’, we run the risk of winding up physically, emotionally and spiritually ship wrecked. More specifically, the energy center known as the ‘solar plexus’ goes completely out of balance; and, when that happens all kinds of things in our bodies, our relationships and our lives get messed up. So in today’s article I’m going to make sure you leave knowing the warning signs of dangerous people pleasing and a 3 step question to help you kill your off your disease to please.
Physical Dysfunctions: Did you know that people pleasing is one of the leading causes of spiritual dysfunction and unexplained illness in the body? Symptoms of people pleasing include: exhaustion, unmanageable irritability, rapid weight gain, IBS, upset stomach upset or stomach viruses (including the stomach flu), unexplained abdominal pain, ulcers, nausea, gallstones, binge eating, anorexia, bulimia, constant feelings of wanting to be alone/escape or run away, anxiety and more.
Main Issues: Developing personal power, self-will, self-confidence and courage/moving through fear.
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People pleasing or (not being able to say ‘NO’ happens when we stop caring for these 3 things:
1. Our healthy personal boundaries.
2. Our standards/how we want to be treated or feel.
3. Our connection to our instincts/intuition.
So the three questions you need ask yourself before saying ‘yes’ to anything else are:
1. Am I respecting myself and my personal boundaries right now if I say yes?
2. Am I honouring myself and my standards if I say yes?
3. Is this something that feels right and I am at peace with saying yes?
Sometimes saying ‘NO’ is the most kind, caring, thoughtful, honest and compassionate thing you can do for yourself and another. If saying ‘yes’ to someone is going to ravage or destroy your healthy personal boundaries, your standards or your connection to your instincts or intuition say ‘no’.
Working with a self-love coach and energy healer is one of the very best ways to work through unresolved emotional issues (likely developed in your teen years) to rid yourself of blocked energy or the disease to please for good.
Remember people can only treat you as well as you treat yourself. So treat yourself with the utmost love and respect. You deserve the very best!
Thanks for reading!
Be Well.
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