6 WAYS TO BE SEXIER IN 6 MINUTES
‘Sexy’ is not something that you can buy in a store… It has nothing to do with your age, the number on the scale, the length of your hair, the colour of your skin or how ‘pretty’ other people think you are. True sexiness is an energy. It’s roots must be firmly planted within your mind, body and soul in order for it’s enchanting magic to bloom and been seen on the outside. True sexiness cannot be faked, tamed or imitated. You are being your sexiest when you are being authentically YOU.
If you’re anything like me, you’ve done all kinds of things at one time or another in your life to try to be sexier – Dieting, self-help books, popping pills, ‘makeovers’, therapy, trying to keep up with the latest fashion trends… I could go on and on. And in most the cases the media is not our friend.
By the time we are 10 years old our minds have been littered with messages of what the ‘perfect‘ woman looks like; our bodies have been hustled into thinking that dangerous eating habits are the hottest trend; and our spirits have been manipulated into believing that we need to take this course, read that book, buy only this food and speak like that in order to finally be ‘good enough’.
At the end of the day we must remember that like womanhood, being sexy and truly falling head over heels in love with every inch of ourselves (mind, body and soul) is our greatest journey and our sole purpose in life. Believe me, there is nothing sexier than a woman who is intently, purposefully, wildly, divinely in love with herself – a free woman who isn’t in search for love, she knows that she is love.
She knows she’s sexy, she exudes that energy and the Universe unites her with others of like energy. Without further ado here are 6 simple ways to summon your most authentic self to the surface and be sexier in 6 minutes.
1. Flaunt What You Love Instead of Hiding What You Hate
Looking in the mirror these days is not child’s play. We say some of the most hurtful and unloving things to ourselves when we are looking ourselves right in the face in front of the mirror. We look for flaws and imperfections. We look at ourselves a collection of parts instead of seeing a whole. And our morning preparation turns into a wild circus act of painting on a face and throwing on fabric to hide (or conceal) what we hate.
From this point on here is some self-love coaching for you. When you go the mirror see your body as a whole. Start from your head to your toe. Be committed to noticing what you love first. From now on when you get ready in the morning your only mission is to flaunt, accentuate, offer and play up what you love about yourself. You no longer need to worry about hiding what you don’t like. Because the minute you no longer focus on those things, no one else will focus on them either.
2. Be Playful Instead of Perfect
Okay so this point is all about kicking back and chillaxing. Seriously most of the time, we are trying way too hard to look feel or look sexy. We think that being sexy requires effort and it doesn’t. It’s okay if your hair isn’t perfectly straightened, if your nails aren’t painted, if they’ve already seen you in that dress, if you rock a messy bun, if you add a funky scarf or you go completely bare faced with just a little gloss. The key here is you must be comfortable and playful. When you are playful you are fun and awesome to be around. So chill out a little and try a little less.
3. Pucker Up and Smile
This is a simple one. Never leave home without a lip moisturizer or lip gloss. Your lips are what you do all of your taking with. They are a bridge for communication so its very important that you take care of them. Be aware that at every moment your lips are sending out a strong messages about your state of mind, your health and your availability. And they are either inviting people in or pushing people away. Well hydrated smiling lips say ‘YES!‘. Chapped, uncared for frowning lips say ‘I’M NOT AVAILABLE‘. So keep your lips happy and not only will you feel sexier, but they will literally attract exciting opportunities into your life.
4. Pump of the Volume and Shake Your Booty (Beyonce’s Drunk In Love Anyone?)
Ah! I’m so excited about this point!! Music is the key to elevating any mood and infusing your body with vibrations that naturally bring you back to your naturally sexy state. I really encourage you to make music a part of your morning routine at some point. Silence is great for meditation, but music is great for your hips, balancing feminine energy and getting you all juiced up. You may feel a little shy at first, but if you allow yourself to go beyond that point you’ll see how much sexier you feel almost instantly.
5. Wear Bold Make-Up
Sometimes in order to reach new heights of sexiness we need to venture out to new territories of self-expression. Your body is your canvas. Most of us get trapped into only displaying the parts of ourselves that we feel are normal, acceptable or appropriate… So my challenge to you today is to do something edgy. Maybe that means wearing no make up at all if your one of those women who could never leave the house without make up; or maybe it’s finally dying your hair that wild colour you’ve always wanted to; or wearing a smokey eye shadow in the middle of the day for no reason at all. Make up is meant to be fun, and when used to express love rather than conceal hate it can be one of the best things to have in your ‘be sexy tool kit’
6. Stop Apologizing
Let’s face it most of us are not adept at knowing how to responsibly process uncomfortable emotions such as fear, anger, guilt and shame. I spend literally hours a week coaching and healing women who are walking around with nearly crippling amounts of emotional baggage they didn’t even know they were carrying around in their subconscious or cellular memory.
We have this tendency to think that when we’ve learned a lesson, we’ve learned it for good. We forget that the life lessons always keeps repeating themselves in different ways in our lives and will continue to do so until we die.
The key here is to stop apologizing for being human. This means stop explaining or apologizing for the extra weight your carrying, for the business risk you took that failed, for the bill you forgot to pay, for the fact that your 40 and not married yet, for pissing people off when you speak your truth.
Stop apologizing. Embrace your humanity. Say to yourself ‘ I am learning from this experience‘. Remember you don’t always have to be the master. You are also a student in life. When you can really embrace your own humanity, which is part of creating a solid foundation of self-love you are undeniably sexy to yourself and those who matter.
The more you see YOU, the more you WILL SEE that you are ALREADY NATURALLY SEXY. There is absolutely nothing else you need to do; nothing else you need to buy; nothing else you need to read; and nothing else you need to get. Everything you need you already have. True sexiness is an energy. Let yourself shine.