{"id":5782,"date":"2014-07-29T00:48:48","date_gmt":"2014-07-29T00:48:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/?p=5782"},"modified":"2020-02-18T18:09:21","modified_gmt":"2020-02-18T23:09:21","slug":"name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/","title":{"rendered":"Name Calling Hurts&#8230; Only You Can Stop It&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Name_calling\">&#8216;Name calling&#8217;<\/a> <\/span><\/strong>is perhaps one of the most <em>loveless<\/em> and most <em>destructive<\/em> forms of communication used to prove a point or win an argument.<\/p>\n<p><em><span style=\"color: #993366;\">When someone calls you a name, it does so much more than hurt your feelings; <strong>it chips away at your inner essence<\/strong>, your core power and the very foundation of who you are.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/young-woman-looking-into-a-mirror\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-5783\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-5783\" src=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/bigstock-Young-Woman-Looking-Into-A-Mir-5503859.jpg\" alt=\"name calling + modern day wise woman\" width=\"645\" height=\"440\" srcset=\"https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/bigstock-Young-Woman-Looking-Into-A-Mir-5503859.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/bigstock-Young-Woman-Looking-Into-A-Mir-5503859-600x409.jpg 600w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/bigstock-Young-Woman-Looking-Into-A-Mir-5503859-300x205.jpg 300w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/bigstock-Young-Woman-Looking-Into-A-Mir-5503859-1024x698.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>The effects of name calling can last as little as a few moments (if you are extremely self-aware and grounded) or as long as an entire lifetime.<\/strong>&nbsp; In fact<em> it is highly probable<\/em> that right now, you are walking around with <em>physical<\/em> and <em>emotional<\/em> symptoms that you weren&#8217;t even aware of, that are <strong>rooted in an episode of name calling <\/strong>that you experienced as a <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">young child<\/span> or <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">adolescent<\/span>. When someone calls you a name, and you <em>believe<\/em> it, it takes everything you&#8217;ve got to <em>heal<\/em> and feel <em>whole<\/em> again.<\/p>\n<div class='tm-tweet-clear'><\/div>\n<div class='tm-click-to-tweet'>\n<div class='tm-ctt-text'><a href='https:\/\/twitter.com\/share?text=When+someone+calls+you+a+name%2C+and+you+believe+it%2C+it+takes+everything+you%27ve+got+to+heal+and+feel+whole+again.&#038;via=RMLLoveCoach&#038;related=RMLLoveCoach&#038;url=https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/' target='_blank'>When someone calls you a name, and you believe it, it takes everything you&#8217;ve got to heal and feel whole again.<\/a><\/div>\n<p><a href='https:\/\/twitter.com\/share?text=When+someone+calls+you+a+name%2C+and+you+believe+it%2C+it+takes+everything+you%27ve+got+to+heal+and+feel+whole+again.&#038;via=RMLLoveCoach&#038;related=RMLLoveCoach&#038;url=https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/' target='_blank' class='tm-ctt-btn'>Click To Tweet<\/a><\/p>\n<div class='tm-ctt-tip'><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/root-chakra\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-5784\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-5784\" src=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/root-chakra.jpg\" alt=\"name calling + root chakra + modern day wise woman\" width=\"645\" height=\"645\" srcset=\"https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/root-chakra.jpg 5120w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/root-chakra-450x450.jpg 450w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/root-chakra-100x100.jpg 100w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/root-chakra-600x600.jpg 600w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/root-chakra-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/root-chakra-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/root-chakra-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/root-chakra-700x700.jpg 700w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Affected Energy Center\/Chakra:<\/strong> Root Chakra (sanskrit name muladhara), developmental ages 1-8 years old.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Physical Effects:<\/strong> Anxiety attacks, shortness of breath, <em>nightmares<\/em>, instant head aches, fatigue, <em>lower back pain<\/em>, &nbsp;fibromyalgia, osteoarthritis, issue with the bones\/skeletal structure.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Emotional Effects:<\/strong> &nbsp;<em>Addiction<\/em> (food, work, sex, drugs, booze, self-help), depression, insecurity, materialism, &nbsp;confusion, &nbsp;weak boundaries, passive aggressive, lack of control or influence in situations, often in <em>survival<\/em> mode , name calling (people who were called names often become name callers).<\/p>\n<p><strong>Main Issues:<\/strong> &nbsp;Lack of boundaries, <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>not standing up for oneself,<\/strong><\/span> instability or lack of being grounded\/centred.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #993366;\"><em>If you are being called names <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">frequently<\/span> it is time to a) stop the attacks from continuing and b) repair any damage that has been done to your from previous attacks.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/girl-yelling-to-her-boyfriend\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-5790\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-5790\" src=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/kozzi-girl_yelling_to_her_boyfriend-1774x1183.jpg\" alt=\"name calling modern day wise woman\" width=\"645\" height=\"430\" srcset=\"https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/kozzi-girl_yelling_to_her_boyfriend-1774x1183.jpg 1774w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/kozzi-girl_yelling_to_her_boyfriend-1774x1183-600x400.jpg 600w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/kozzi-girl_yelling_to_her_boyfriend-1774x1183-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/kozzi-girl_yelling_to_her_boyfriend-1774x1183-1024x682.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">First you need to understand a little something about <em>energy<\/em>. <strong>When people are filled with love, they project love. Not hate..<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #993366;\"><strong>Trust your intuition.<\/strong> <\/span>You know when someone is being loving towards you or when someone is being hateful or spiteful towards you:<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">1. &nbsp;Notice the way the person looks.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">2. &nbsp;Notice their breathing.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">3. &nbsp;Notice their movement.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong>Be the observer.<\/strong>&nbsp;<strong>Wait to respond.<\/strong>&nbsp; <strong>Breath.<\/strong> Don&#8217;t allow yourself to get sucked into what they are saying&#8230; Now you must use your higher senses.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">If the energy\/tone\/language being used doesn&#8217;t feel right or congruent, it is not to be trusted in the moment. &nbsp;This does not mean that you cannot trust your partner\/friend\/co-worker ever. <strong>What I&#8217;m saying here is &nbsp;that when they are projecting hate, see it as such. &nbsp;Do not engage that energy.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><em><span style=\"color: #993366;\">I know it&#8217;s not easy to be the observer when adrenaline kicks in&#8230;. So practice&#8230; Practice.. Practice&#8230; &nbsp; If you are confused in anyway about how to tell the difference, schedule a a <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\"><span style=\"color: #993366; text-decoration: underline;\">free consultation with me<\/span><\/a><\/span>&nbsp;and on that call I will teach you how to tap into your intuition so you can tell the difference in any situation.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">If you&#8217;ve been being called names steadily or on and off for 6 months or more, you&#8217;ve likely developed <b>some kind of &nbsp;silent f!ck off and leave me alone&nbsp;mechanism<\/b>&nbsp;to escape your name calling friend or partner. Some examples of this are, going to bed to get away from the conversation, walking out, going silent , busying yourself with work\/phone\/i pad etc., agreeing (to shut them up) and making excuses to tend to the baby.<em><span style=\"color: #993366;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">\n<div class='tm-tweet-clear'><\/div>\n<div class='tm-click-to-tweet'>\n<div class='tm-ctt-text'><a href='https:\/\/twitter.com\/share?text=When+people+are+filled+with+love%2C+they+project+love.+%26nbsp%3BNot+hate...&#038;via=RMLLoveCoach&#038;related=RMLLoveCoach&#038;url=https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/' target='_blank'>When people are filled with love, they project love. &nbsp;Not hate&#8230;<\/a><\/div>\n<p><a href='https:\/\/twitter.com\/share?text=When+people+are+filled+with+love%2C+they+project+love.+%26nbsp%3BNot+hate...&#038;via=RMLLoveCoach&#038;related=RMLLoveCoach&#038;url=https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/' target='_blank' class='tm-ctt-btn'>Click To Tweet<\/a><\/p>\n<div class='tm-ctt-tip'><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">For the purposes of this article I&#8217;m using the word hate, to be quite honest I don&#8217;t really believe in &#8216;hate&#8217;&#8230; I believe that <strong>what we <em>experience<\/em> as &#8216;hate&#8217; is actually nothing more than fear in disguise.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">But since most of us weren&#8217;t taught how to <em>express<\/em> our fear in a way that <em>empowers<\/em> us, it seethes, it ferments, it seeps out through the cracks in our being, shoots daggers from our eyes and it froths out of our mouths.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #993366;\"><em><strong>We forget that our words are creating our world<\/strong> &#8211; everyone is being affected whether we aware of it, or agree with it or not.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">\n<div class='tm-tweet-clear'><\/div>\n<div class='tm-click-to-tweet'>\n<div class='tm-ctt-text'><a href='https:\/\/twitter.com\/share?text=What+we+experience+as+%27hate%27+is+actually+nothing+more+than+fear+in+disguise.+&#038;via=RMLLoveCoach&#038;related=RMLLoveCoach&#038;url=https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/' target='_blank'>What we experience as &#8216;hate&#8217; is actually nothing more than fear in disguise. <\/a><\/div>\n<p><a href='https:\/\/twitter.com\/share?text=What+we+experience+as+%27hate%27+is+actually+nothing+more+than+fear+in+disguise.+&#038;via=RMLLoveCoach&#038;related=RMLLoveCoach&#038;url=https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/' target='_blank' class='tm-ctt-btn'>Click To Tweet<\/a><\/p>\n<div class='tm-ctt-tip'><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<figure id=\"attachment_5791\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-5791\" style=\"width: 645px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/name-calling-self-love-modern-day-wise-woman\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-5791\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-5791\" src=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/name-calling-self-love-modern-day-wise-woman.jpg\" alt=\"name calling self-love modern day wise woman\" width=\"645\" height=\"363\" srcset=\"https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/name-calling-self-love-modern-day-wise-woman.jpg 849w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/name-calling-self-love-modern-day-wise-woman-600x338.jpg 600w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/name-calling-self-love-modern-day-wise-woman-300x169.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-5791\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Step 1: What is the major life lesson I need to learn right now?<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>When you find yourself in an unpleasant situation you always have two choices: you can a) wallow in self-pity and allow yourself to be a victim or b) you can ask yourself <strong>&#8216;what is the major life lesson I need to learn right now?&#8217;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Once you are clear about what major life lesson you are being shown, asked, summoned (or dragged kicking and screaming) to learn you are ready for the next step and to put an end to the name calling in your relationship once and for all. <strong>If you didn&#8217;t already guess what the major life lesson you need to learn is, I&#8217;ll tell you what it is&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><em><span style=\"color: #993366; text-decoration: underline;\"> It&#8217;s time for you to stand up for yourself, where you haven&#8217;t been&#8230; It&#8217;s time to say &#8216;enough!&#8217; And when you say it, say it with power. Mean it! You must make it clear that <strong>you will not continue communication in a toxic space<\/strong> (when they are calling you names); but that are you more than willing to have an adult conversation when they are ready<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Be open to the <em>possibility<\/em> of this being resolved quickly, but understand that you are trying to change your behaviour as well as your partner\/friend\/business partner&#8217;s behaviour. You must be patient.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Likely<\/strong>,&nbsp;<strong>it&nbsp;will take time, practice, multiple conversations and quite possibly the even the assistance of a coach or therapist. &nbsp;<\/strong>The more you practice the quicker you will see results.<\/p>\n<div class='tm-tweet-clear'><\/div>\n<div class='tm-click-to-tweet'>\n<div class='tm-ctt-text'><a href='https:\/\/twitter.com\/share?text=It%27s+time+for+you+to+stand+up+for+yourself%2C+where+you+haven%27t+been...+It%27s+time+to+say+enough%21&#038;via=RMLLoveCoach&#038;related=RMLLoveCoach&#038;url=https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/' target='_blank'>It&#8217;s time for you to stand up for yourself, where you haven&#8217;t been&#8230; It&#8217;s time to say enough!<\/a><\/div>\n<p><a href='https:\/\/twitter.com\/share?text=It%27s+time+for+you+to+stand+up+for+yourself%2C+where+you+haven%27t+been...+It%27s+time+to+say+enough%21&#038;via=RMLLoveCoach&#038;related=RMLLoveCoach&#038;url=https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/' target='_blank' class='tm-ctt-btn'>Click To Tweet<\/a><\/p>\n<div class='tm-ctt-tip'><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_5785\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-5785\" style=\"width: 645px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/mentally\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-5785\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-5785\" src=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/mentally.jpg\" alt=\"name calling + stop + modern day wise woman + self-love\" width=\"645\" height=\"428\" srcset=\"https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/mentally.jpg 775w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/mentally-600x398.jpg 600w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/mentally-300x199.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-5785\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Step 2: It&#8217;s time to say &#8216;Enough!&#8217; Say it with power. And mean it.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>I<\/strong><strong>t&#8217;s so important that you see for yourself right now in this moment that someone calling you names is absolutely forgivable, but it is unacceptable behaviour going forward.<\/strong> &nbsp;The person that is calling you names is not a &#8216;<em>bad<\/em>&#8216; person&#8230; I&#8217;m sure that there are really crappy, ugly, and emotionally terrorizing &nbsp;things that you do to others too when you are upset with them. For example in some instances your silence is like stabbing a lethal injection right into your partners heart&#8230; And you know this and you do it anyway&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>No one here is a saint. With that being said the only person who is 100% responsible for you is you.<\/p>\n<p><em><span style=\"color: #993366;\">So it&#8217;s up to you to make it clear that <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">you will no longer tolerate<\/span> being called a &#8216; bitch&#8217;, &#8216;pathetic&#8217;, &#8216;stupid&#8217;, &#8216;lazy&#8217;, &#8216;worthless&#8217;, &#8216;heifer&#8217;, &#8216;piece of sh!t&#8217;&#8230; Or &nbsp;any word(s) that leaves you feeling holistically unloved, undervalued, dishonoured, dismissed, &nbsp;disrespected, silenced, enraged or enslaved, in fear or powerless.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p>You are the one who must <strong>speak up<\/strong>, stand up if necessary, <strong>be absofreakinglutely unwavering<\/strong> about the fact that this behaviour and way of talking to you must end immediately. &nbsp;Note, this is going to be very scary for you. <strong>Be very prepared<\/strong> for your boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, lover, business partner, whoever it is to loose their mind. Why? Because you just flipped the script. Being &#8216;nasty&#8217; will no longer buy them power or allow them to win.<\/p>\n<div class='tm-tweet-clear'><\/div>\n<div class='tm-click-to-tweet'>\n<div class='tm-ctt-text'><a href='https:\/\/twitter.com\/share?text=You+just+flipped+the+script.+Being+%27nasty%27+will+no+longer+buy+them+power+or+allow+them+to+win.&#038;via=RMLLoveCoach&#038;related=RMLLoveCoach&#038;url=https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/' target='_blank'>You just flipped the script. Being &#8216;nasty&#8217; will no longer buy them power or allow them to win.<\/a><\/div>\n<p><a href='https:\/\/twitter.com\/share?text=You+just+flipped+the+script.+Being+%27nasty%27+will+no+longer+buy+them+power+or+allow+them+to+win.&#038;via=RMLLoveCoach&#038;related=RMLLoveCoach&#038;url=https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/' target='_blank' class='tm-ctt-btn'>Click To Tweet<\/a><\/p>\n<div class='tm-ctt-tip'><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/couples-3-love-24717298-500-335\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-5803\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-5803\" src=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/couples-3-love-24717298-500-335.jpg\" alt=\"couples in love modern day wise woman\" width=\"645\" height=\"432\" srcset=\"https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/couples-3-love-24717298-500-335.jpg 640w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/couples-3-love-24717298-500-335-600x402.jpg 600w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/couples-3-love-24717298-500-335-300x201.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>And just to be clear. <strong>This is not a game<\/strong>. I&#8217;m not trying to teach you how to <em>manipulate<\/em> or &#8216;pull the rug&#8217; out from under another person. <strong><span style=\"color: #993366;\">What I&#8217;m teaching you is how to love yourself<\/span><\/strong>. <span style=\"color: #993366;\"><strong>How to respect and love yourself to the highest degree; and train others that you will not accept anything less than that anymor<\/strong><strong>e<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Also if you are truly committed to the growth of that other person don&#8217;t let them get away with this stuff. <strong>You being silent doesn&#8217;t help them to grow &#8211; instead it stifles them. &nbsp;<\/strong>So don&#8217;t feel guilty about speaking up. When you do your very best to be your best self, you give your partner permission to do the same. You grow together.<\/p>\n<div class='tm-tweet-clear'><\/div>\n<div class='tm-click-to-tweet'>\n<div class='tm-ctt-text'><a href='https:\/\/twitter.com\/share?text=When+you+do+your+very+best+to+be+your+best+self%2C+you+give+your+partner+permission+to+do+the+same.+You+grow+together.&#038;via=RMLLoveCoach&#038;related=RMLLoveCoach&#038;url=https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/' target='_blank'>When you do your very best to be your best self, you give your partner permission to do the same. You grow together.<\/a><\/div>\n<p><a href='https:\/\/twitter.com\/share?text=When+you+do+your+very+best+to+be+your+best+self%2C+you+give+your+partner+permission+to+do+the+same.+You+grow+together.&#038;via=RMLLoveCoach&#038;related=RMLLoveCoach&#038;url=https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/' target='_blank' class='tm-ctt-btn'>Click To Tweet<\/a><\/p>\n<div class='tm-ctt-tip'><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_5799\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-5799\" style=\"width: 645px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/attachment\/5799\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-5799\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-5799\" src=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/bugs-in-your-gut_hands-making-heart-over-stomach_image.jpg\" alt=\"Create a self-care regime\" width=\"645\" height=\"597\" srcset=\"https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/bugs-in-your-gut_hands-making-heart-over-stomach_image.jpg 1125w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/bugs-in-your-gut_hands-making-heart-over-stomach_image-300x278.jpg 300w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/bugs-in-your-gut_hands-making-heart-over-stomach_image-1024x948.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/bugs-in-your-gut_hands-making-heart-over-stomach_image-768x711.jpg 768w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/bugs-in-your-gut_hands-making-heart-over-stomach_image-600x555.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-5799\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Step 3: Create &amp; stick to your self-care routine.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>When we do not feel worthy, we lower our standards&#8230; We accept being treated poorly&#8230;<\/strong> One of the most effective ways to increase your self-worth is to create a self-care routine as a part of your <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/coaching\/\">self-love program<\/a><\/span>. &nbsp;Self-care involves learning <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now\/\">how to release unhealthy anger<\/a>,<\/span>&nbsp;learning <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/how-to-allow-pleasure-by-healing-the-sacral-chakra\/\">how to allow pleasure&nbsp;<\/a>,&nbsp;<\/span>learning&nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/how-to-stop-falling-off-the-wagon\/\">how to stop falling off the wagon<\/a>&nbsp;and so much more.<\/p>\n<p><em><span style=\"color: #993366;\">Taking care of yourself mind, body and spirit has you energetically become someone who is <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">no longer a vibrational match for that kind of loveless style of communication.<\/span> &nbsp;You will also feel even better about yourself than you do right now; which will inevitably lead you to raise your standards and let go of all kinds of things that you once found acceptable.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p>As you begin to expand your concept of <strong>self-love<\/strong>, explore new opportunities to practice<strong> self-care<\/strong>&nbsp;you will also come across all kinds of really fun, awesome and funky things to try which will also assist you in healing your root chakra &#8211; so you can heal all aspects of your self (past and present) and organically lessen instances of name calling in your current relationships.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_5800\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-5800\" style=\"width: 645px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/yoga-bridge-pose\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-5800\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-5800\" src=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/bridge.jpg\" alt=\"Root Chakra Healing Yoga (Bridge Pose)\" width=\"645\" height=\"430\" srcset=\"https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/bridge.jpg 900w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/bridge-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/bridge-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/bridge-600x400.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-5800\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Step 4: Energy Home Work, Root Chakra Energy Healing Exercise<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>A great tip to help you release energy which may being blocked in your root chakra is to do a variation of what is known in yoga as the bridge pose.<\/strong><b>&nbsp; <\/b>It&#8217;s simplicity allow you to really settle your <em>mind<\/em>, <em>breath<\/em> in and out nice and slowly, &nbsp;and ground yourself while stimulating the <em>flow<\/em> of energy to your root chakra.<\/p>\n<p><em><span style=\"color: #993366;\">T<\/span><\/em><em><span style=\"color: #993366;\">he idea is to push your lower back towards the floor. Then push your butt upwards. &nbsp;Go ahead and try this for a few days and notice how your body feels\u2026<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Many of my clients have reported that they notice that&nbsp;<strong>they stand\/walk taller<\/strong>, some say that they feel as though <strong>they command attention<\/strong> when they walk into a room and few have mentioned that <strong>they feel stronger<\/strong> when they are in an argument with their partner.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_5801\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-5801\" style=\"width: 645px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-5801\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-5801\" src=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love.jpeg\" alt=\"name calling modern day wise woman self-love\" width=\"645\" height=\"429\" srcset=\"https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love.jpeg 1600w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love-300x200.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love-1024x682.jpeg 1024w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love-768x511.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love-1536x1022.jpeg 1536w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love-900x600.jpeg 900w, https:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love-600x399.jpeg 600w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-5801\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Step 5: Work with an Self-Love Coach &amp; Energy Healer to dive deeper.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p><strong>Always be sure to consult your physician as well as an&nbsp;<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/energy-healing\/\">energy healer<\/a><\/span>&nbsp;if you are experiencing any pain or discomfort in your body.<\/strong> &nbsp;Remember, just as you would see your family doctor regularly for a physical or your dentist to get your teeth cleaned, it is important to schedule regular visits with an <a href=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/energy-healing\/\">energy healer<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>In this article <strong>I&#8217;ve given you some of the most simplest, yet effective steps to prevent you from being attacked again and help you heal any old wounds.<\/strong> Because name calling affects us in so many ways and on so many levels I always recommend working one one one with a coach and healer &#8211; these coaches and practitioners are trained to detect emotional imbalances, tears or blockages in your energy field and issues that are affecting you emotionally at a subconscious level.<\/p>\n<p><em><span style=\"color: #993366;\">Today we looked at the root chakra, but did you know that there 6 other chakras also affected by name calling. Yes! 6 others&#8230;. The root is just the beginning.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Name calling isn&#8217;t pretty that&#8217;s true, but no one ever said that loving would be easy or pretty. Each of us are fighting to be loved, to be heard, to be validated or as Oprah would say, &#8216;we want to know that we matter&#8217;&#8230; &nbsp;Know that when you are standing up for yourself, you are standing for love.<\/p>\n<p><strong>You can do it. I believe in you.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You are awesome&#8230; Awesome&#8230; That&#8217;s a name I hope you carry with you for a lifetime.<\/p>\n<h4>xoxo Renee<\/h4>\n<figure id=\"attachment_5767\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-5767\" style=\"width: 164px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><a href=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it\/img_3528\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-5767\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-5767 size-medium\" src=\"http:\/\/reneemullingslewis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/IMG_3528-164x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"164\" height=\"300\"><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-5767\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Renee Mullings-Lewis Self-Love Coach &amp; Energy Healer<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8216;Name calling&#8217; is perhaps one of the most loveless and most destructive forms of communication used to prove a point or win an argument. 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