<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss version="2.0" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:wfw="http://wellformedweb.org/CommentAPI/" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" xmlns:sy="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/syndication/" xmlns:slash="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/slash/" > <channel> <title>Modern Day Wise Woman</title> <atom:link href="https://reneemullingslewis.com/tag/wise-woman/feed/" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml" /> <link>https://reneemullingslewis.com</link> <description>Renée Mullings-Lewis | Self-Love Coach & Intuitive Wise Woman </description> <lastBuildDate>Tue, 18 Feb 2020 23:09:21 +0000</lastBuildDate> <language>en-CA</language> <sy:updatePeriod> hourly </sy:updatePeriod> <sy:updateFrequency> 1 </sy:updateFrequency> <generator>https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2</generator> <item> <title>Finding Acceptance During Difficult Times</title> <link>https://reneemullingslewis.com/finding-self-acceptance-during-times-of-major-change/</link> <comments>https://reneemullingslewis.com/finding-self-acceptance-during-times-of-major-change/#respond</comments> <dc:creator><![CDATA[Renee Mullings-Lewis]]></dc:creator> <pubDate>Thu, 05 Oct 2017 22:15:17 +0000</pubDate> <category><![CDATA[Self-Love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[chakra balancing]]></category> <category><![CDATA[dare to be fearlessly you]]></category> <category><![CDATA[empaths]]></category> <category><![CDATA[fall in love with yourself]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Law of Attraction]]></category> <category><![CDATA[light workers]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Modern Day Wise Woman]]></category> <category><![CDATA[relationships]]></category> <category><![CDATA[renee mullings-lewis]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-empowerment]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love coach]]></category> <category><![CDATA[spiritual coaching]]></category> <category><![CDATA[spirituality]]></category> <category><![CDATA[vulnerability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[wise woman]]></category> <category><![CDATA[women]]></category> <category><![CDATA[women's coaching]]></category> <guid isPermaLink="false">http://reneemullingslewis.com/?p=12858</guid> <description><![CDATA[Sometimes it feels as if the ground is slipping beneath our feet like quicksand. One minute we feel as if we are safe and secure in our lives, and the next we find ourselves below ground, gasping for air and clinging to the edges for survival. When we find ourselves slipping, our instinct is to panic… […]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p class="m_5895456227628340746p1"><span class="m_5895456227628340746s1"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/finding-self-acceptance-during-times-of-major-change/dealing-wth-change-renee-2/" rel="attachment wp-att-12861"><img fetchpriority="high" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-12861 size-full" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/dealing-wth-change-renee-1-1.jpg" alt="" width="870" height="500" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/dealing-wth-change-renee-1-1.jpg 870w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/dealing-wth-change-renee-1-1-600x345.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/dealing-wth-change-renee-1-1-300x172.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/dealing-wth-change-renee-1-1-768x441.jpg 768w" sizes="(max-width: 870px) 100vw, 870px" /></a></span></p> <p class="m_5895456227628340746p1"><span class="m_5895456227628340746s1"><strong>Sometimes it feels as if the ground is slipping beneath our feet like quicksand.</strong> One minute we feel as if we are safe and secure in our lives, and the next we find ourselves below ground, gasping for air and clinging to the edges for survival. </span><span class="m_5895456227628340746s1">When we find ourselves slipping, our instinct is to panic… To try and hold on… <em><span style="color: #800080;">Our thinking becomes irrational</span></em>, our movements flustered, and it can feel as if our emotions are devouring us instead of helping us.<span class="m_5895456227628340746Apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="m_5895456227628340746s1">The self-love lesson we are being called to reflect on during the peek of this full moon is one of <strong><span style="color: #800080;"><em>“non-attachment”</em></span></strong>… Specifically the reminder that <em><span style="color: #800080;"><strong>nothing in life is permanent</strong></span></em>.</span></p> <p class="m_5895456227628340746p1"><span class="m_5895456227628340746s1">Many <em>old souls</em> have been experiencing dramatic dips in their ability to manifest money, new opportunities, new friends, peace of mind, confidence and more, purely because we’ve been spending too much time digging through the past or <strong>clinging to deceased versions of ourselves</strong>. </span><span class="m_5895456227628340746s1">We feel afraid to confront the <em>deeper issue</em> behind our need hang on so tightly. Which is, that it is not the Universe or the future that we feel unsure/unsettled about. <em><strong><span style="color: #800080;">It is our lack of faith in ourselves.</span></strong></em> Take a moment to just sit with this for a moment. Because this right here is huge. </span></p> <h2><strong><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/know-your-worthbig-2/"><img decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-1434" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/Know-Your-Worthbig-e1339553554452.jpg" alt="" width="870" height="653" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/Know-Your-Worthbig-e1339553554452.jpg 640w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/Know-Your-Worthbig-e1339553554452-600x450.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/Know-Your-Worthbig-e1339553554452-300x225.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 870px) 100vw, 870px" /></a>The Deeper Self-Love Issue</strong></h2> <p class="m_5895456227628340746p1"><span class="m_5895456227628340746s1">We want to control all of these other things because we do not believe that we have the <em><span style="color: #800080;">power</span></em> to manifest whatever we want no matter how things shift and change. We also want control and certainty because somewhere deep down, we don’t believe that we can be happy without all of our ‘things’. </span><span class="m_5895456227628340746s1"><strong>True power exists when we know that we can rise above no matter how things shift or change in our lives</strong>. </p> <hr /> <p><em>True power exists when we know that we can rise above no matter how things shift or change in our lives.</em><br /><a href='https://twitter.com/share?text=True+power+exists+when+we+know+that+we+can+rise+above+no+matter+how+things+shift+or+change+in+our+lives.&via=RMLLoveCoach&related=RMLLoveCoach&url=https://reneemullingslewis.com/finding-self-acceptance-during-times-of-major-change/' target='_blank'>Click To Tweet</a></p> <hr /> <p> Naturally, this kind of power isn’t easy to harness; and even more so for human beings existing in marginalized bodies. <em><strong><span style="color: #800080;">For many of us, this lesson will be a lifelong practice.<span class="m_5895456227628340746Apple-converted-space"> </span></span></strong></em></span></p> <p class="m_5895456227628340746p1"><span class="m_5895456227628340746s1">Let’s pause and just take a deep breath here… Because really and truly the beauty of doing this kind of self-love reflection is that it helps us to find our way out of the darkness. </p> <hr /> <p><em>Because really and truly the beauty of doing this kind of self-love reflection is that it helps us to find our way out of the darkness.</em><br /><a href='https://twitter.com/share?text=Because+really+and+truly+the+beauty+of+doing+this+kind+of+self-love+reflection+is+that+it+helps+us+to+find+our+way+out+of+the+darkness.&via=RMLLoveCoach&related=RMLLoveCoach&url=https://reneemullingslewis.com/finding-self-acceptance-during-times-of-major-change/' target='_blank'>Click To Tweet</a></p> <hr /> <p></span></p> <p class="m_5895456227628340746p1"><span class="m_5895456227628340746s1">Tonight is the night my friends to take your power back. To remember that true power lies within.</span></p> <h2><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/finding-self-acceptance-during-times-of-major-change/woman-crying/" rel="attachment wp-att-12887"><img decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-12887 size-large" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Woman-crying-1024x682.jpg" alt="" width="1024" height="682" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Woman-crying-1024x682.jpg 1024w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Woman-crying-300x200.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Woman-crying-768x511.jpg 768w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Woman-crying-1536x1023.jpg 1536w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Woman-crying-2048x1364.jpg 2048w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Woman-crying-900x600.jpg 900w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Woman-crying-600x400.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Woman-crying-920x613.jpg 920w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /></a><strong>So Let It Out</strong></h2> <p>Let out all of the pain.</p> <p>Let out all of the anger.</p> <p>Let the tears flow.</p> <p>Let the frustration rise from the soles of your feet and out the crown of your head.</p> <p>Yell if you must.</p> <p>Tilt your head back and close your eyes, if a moan escapes let it.</p> <p>Pur your hands on your solar plexus and give yourself some love.</p> <p><em><span style="color: #800080;">Do what you must, but let this attachment out of your mind, heart, spirit and body.</span></em></p> <p>Release it so you can move forward. You deserve to be free of this eternal anguish. Release it so you can take steps to work through it.</p> <p> </p> <p class="m_5895456227628340746p1"><strong><span class="m_5895456227628340746s1"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/women_in_baddha_konasana_bow/"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="wp-image-11614 size-large aligncenter" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/women_in_baddha_konasana_bow-1024x683.jpg" alt="" width="1024" height="683" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/women_in_baddha_konasana_bow.jpg 1024w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/women_in_baddha_konasana_bow-300x200.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/women_in_baddha_konasana_bow-768x512.jpg 768w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/women_in_baddha_konasana_bow-900x600.jpg 900w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/women_in_baddha_konasana_bow-600x400.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/women_in_baddha_konasana_bow-920x614.jpg 920w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /></a></span></strong></p> <h2><strong> <span class="m_5895456227628340746s1">The Self-Love Practice</span></strong></h2> <p class="m_5895456227628340746p1"><span class="m_5895456227628340746s1">Tonight is the night to accept everything- all changes that you have been resisting. Changes in your body. Changes in your friendships. Changes in your marriage. Changes at your work. Changes in your living situation. Changes in your stock investments. Changes in your income. Changes in your business. Changes in your health. Every change… <em><span style="color: #800080;"><strong>Accept it all.</strong></span></em><span class="m_5895456227628340746Apple-converted-space"> Acceptance doesn’t mean that you have to like it or even agree with what’s happening. Acceptance means that you are no longer going to hide, back down from, run away, or waste your precious energy resisting the current reality.</span></span></p> <p class="m_5895456227628340746p1"> <hr /> <p><em>Acceptance doesn’t mean that you have to like it or even agree with what’s happening. Acceptance means that you are no longer going to hide, back down from, run away, or waste your precious energy resisting the current reality.</em><br /><a href='https://twitter.com/share?text=Acceptance+doesn%27t+mean+that+you+have+to+like+it+or+even+agree+with+what%27s+happening.+Acceptance%26nbsp%3Bmeans+that+you+are+no+longer+going+to+hide%2C+back+down+from%2C+run+away%2C+or+waste+your+precious+energy+resisting+the+current+reality.&via=RMLLoveCoach&related=RMLLoveCoach&url=https://reneemullingslewis.com/finding-self-acceptance-during-times-of-major-change/' target='_blank'>Click To Tweet</a></p> <hr /> <p class="m_5895456227628340746p1"><span class="m_5895456227628340746s1">Instead you will <em><strong><span style="color: #800080;">use your energy consciously</span></strong></em> to process your anger, constructively, speak your fears, release your shame, shed all guilt and blame, evolve your visions and get support where you need it.<span class="m_5895456227628340746Apple-converted-space"> </span></span></p> <p class="m_5895456227628340746p1"><span class="m_5895456227628340746s1">Sometimes we just need a reminder of how incredibly amazing and powerful we are. </span></p> <p class="m_5895456227628340746p1"><span class="m_5895456227628340746s1"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>This is your reminder my friend</strong></span>. May this new found layer of acceptance be the spark that’s sets the rest of your truest desires on fire.<span class="m_5895456227628340746Apple-converted-space"> </span></span></p> <p class="m_5895456227628340746p1"><span class="m_5895456227628340746s1">Xo ?Renée<span class="m_5895456227628340746Apple-converted-space"> </span></span></p> <p class="m_5895456227628340746p1"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/finding-self-acceptance-during-times-of-major-change/20638217_10155821286350827_5488648021588407416_n/" rel="attachment wp-att-12881"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="alignleft wp-image-12881" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/20638217_10155821286350827_5488648021588407416_n-150x150.jpg" alt="" width="250" height="250" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/20638217_10155821286350827_5488648021588407416_n-150x150.jpg 150w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/20638217_10155821286350827_5488648021588407416_n-450x450.jpg 450w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/20638217_10155821286350827_5488648021588407416_n-180x180.jpg 180w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/20638217_10155821286350827_5488648021588407416_n-920x920.jpg 920w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/20638217_10155821286350827_5488648021588407416_n-300x300.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/20638217_10155821286350827_5488648021588407416_n-768x768.jpg 768w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/20638217_10155821286350827_5488648021588407416_n-700x700.jpg 700w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/20638217_10155821286350827_5488648021588407416_n.jpg 960w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 250px) 100vw, 250px" /></a></p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>https://reneemullingslewis.com/finding-self-acceptance-during-times-of-major-change/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item> <title>Name Calling Hurts… Only You Can Stop It…</title> <link>https://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/</link> <comments>https://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/#respond</comments> <dc:creator><![CDATA[Renee Mullings-Lewis]]></dc:creator> <pubDate>Tue, 29 Jul 2014 00:48:48 +0000</pubDate> <category><![CDATA[Self-Love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[soul]]></category> <category><![CDATA[chakra balancing]]></category> <category><![CDATA[chakra healing]]></category> <category><![CDATA[divine]]></category> <category><![CDATA[energy healing]]></category> <category><![CDATA[love coach]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Modern Day Wise Woman]]></category> <category><![CDATA[name calling]]></category> <category><![CDATA[reiki]]></category> <category><![CDATA[renee mullings-lewis]]></category> <category><![CDATA[root chakra]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-empowerment]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love coaching]]></category> <category><![CDATA[spirituality]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Toronto]]></category> <category><![CDATA[vulnerability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[wise woman]]></category> <guid isPermaLink="false">http://reneemullingslewis.com/?p=5782</guid> <description><![CDATA[‘Name calling’ is perhaps one of the most loveless and most destructive forms of communication used to prove a point or win an argument. When someone calls you a name, it does so much more than hurt your feelings; it chips away at your inner essence, your core power and the very foundation of who […]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Name_calling">‘Name calling’</a> </span></strong>is perhaps one of the most <em>loveless</em> and most <em>destructive</em> forms of communication used to prove a point or win an argument.</p> <p><em><span style="color: #993366;">When someone calls you a name, it does so much more than hurt your feelings; <strong>it chips away at your inner essence</strong>, your core power and the very foundation of who you are.</span></em></p> <p> </p> <p><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/young-woman-looking-into-a-mirror/" rel="attachment wp-att-5783"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5783" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/bigstock-Young-Woman-Looking-Into-A-Mir-5503859.jpg" alt="name calling + modern day wise woman" width="645" height="440" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/bigstock-Young-Woman-Looking-Into-A-Mir-5503859.jpg 1600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/bigstock-Young-Woman-Looking-Into-A-Mir-5503859-600x409.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/bigstock-Young-Woman-Looking-Into-A-Mir-5503859-300x205.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/bigstock-Young-Woman-Looking-Into-A-Mir-5503859-1024x698.jpg 1024w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></p> <p><strong>The effects of name calling can last as little as a few moments (if you are extremely self-aware and grounded) or as long as an entire lifetime.</strong> In fact<em> it is highly probable</em> that right now, you are walking around with <em>physical</em> and <em>emotional</em> symptoms that you weren’t even aware of, that are <strong>rooted in an episode of name calling </strong>that you experienced as a <span style="text-decoration: underline;">young child</span> or <span style="text-decoration: underline;">adolescent</span>. When someone calls you a name, and you <em>believe</em> it, it takes everything you’ve got to <em>heal</em> and feel <em>whole</em> again.</p> <hr /> <p><em>When someone calls you a name, and you believe it, it takes everything you’ve got to heal and feel whole again.</em><br /><a href='https://twitter.com/share?text=When+someone+calls+you+a+name%2C+and+you+believe+it%2C+it+takes+everything+you%27ve+got+to+heal+and+feel+whole+again.&via=RMLLoveCoach&related=RMLLoveCoach&url=https://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/' target='_blank'>Click To Tweet</a></p> <hr /> <p> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/root-chakra/" rel="attachment wp-att-5784"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5784" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/root-chakra.jpg" alt="name calling + root chakra + modern day wise woman" width="645" height="645" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/root-chakra.jpg 5120w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/root-chakra-450x450.jpg 450w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/root-chakra-100x100.jpg 100w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/root-chakra-600x600.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/root-chakra-150x150.jpg 150w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/root-chakra-300x300.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/root-chakra-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/root-chakra-700x700.jpg 700w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></p> <p> </p> <p><strong>Affected Energy Center/Chakra:</strong> Root Chakra (sanskrit name muladhara), developmental ages 1-8 years old.</p> <p><strong>Physical Effects:</strong> Anxiety attacks, shortness of breath, <em>nightmares</em>, instant head aches, fatigue, <em>lower back pain</em>, fibromyalgia, osteoarthritis, issue with the bones/skeletal structure.</p> <p><strong>Emotional Effects:</strong> <em>Addiction</em> (food, work, sex, drugs, booze, self-help), depression, insecurity, materialism, confusion, weak boundaries, passive aggressive, lack of control or influence in situations, often in <em>survival</em> mode , name calling (people who were called names often become name callers).</p> <p><strong>Main Issues:</strong> Lack of boundaries, <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>not standing up for oneself,</strong></span> instability or lack of being grounded/centred.</p> <p><span style="color: #993366;"><em>If you are being called names <span style="text-decoration: underline;">frequently</span> it is time to a) stop the attacks from continuing and b) repair any damage that has been done to your from previous attacks.</em></span></p> <p> </p> <p><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/girl-yelling-to-her-boyfriend/" rel="attachment wp-att-5790"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5790" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/kozzi-girl_yelling_to_her_boyfriend-1774x1183.jpg" alt="name calling modern day wise woman" width="645" height="430" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/kozzi-girl_yelling_to_her_boyfriend-1774x1183.jpg 1774w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/kozzi-girl_yelling_to_her_boyfriend-1774x1183-600x400.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/kozzi-girl_yelling_to_her_boyfriend-1774x1183-300x200.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/kozzi-girl_yelling_to_her_boyfriend-1774x1183-1024x682.jpg 1024w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></p> <p style="text-align: left;">First you need to understand a little something about <em>energy</em>. <strong>When people are filled with love, they project love. Not hate..</strong>.</p> <p style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #993366;"><strong>Trust your intuition.</strong> </span>You know when someone is being loving towards you or when someone is being hateful or spiteful towards you:</p> <p style="text-align: left;">1. Notice the way the person looks.</p> <p style="text-align: left;">2. Notice their breathing.</p> <p style="text-align: left;">3. Notice their movement.</p> <p style="text-align: left;"><strong>Be the observer.</strong> <strong>Wait to respond.</strong> <strong>Breath.</strong> Don’t allow yourself to get sucked into what they are saying… Now you must use your higher senses.</p> <p style="text-align: left;">If the energy/tone/language being used doesn’t feel right or congruent, it is not to be trusted in the moment. This does not mean that you cannot trust your partner/friend/co-worker ever. <strong>What I’m saying here is that when they are projecting hate, see it as such. Do not engage that energy.</strong></p> <p style="text-align: left;"><em><span style="color: #993366;">I know it’s not easy to be the observer when adrenaline kicks in…. So practice… Practice.. Practice… If you are confused in anyway about how to tell the difference, schedule a a <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com"><span style="color: #993366; text-decoration: underline;">free consultation with me</span></a></span> and on that call I will teach you how to tap into your intuition so you can tell the difference in any situation.</span></em></p> <p style="text-align: left;">If you’ve been being called names steadily or on and off for 6 months or more, you’ve likely developed <b>some kind of silent f!ck off and leave me alone mechanism</b> to escape your name calling friend or partner. Some examples of this are, going to bed to get away from the conversation, walking out, going silent , busying yourself with work/phone/i pad etc., agreeing (to shut them up) and making excuses to tend to the baby.<em><span style="color: #993366;"> </span></em></p> <p style="text-align: left;"> <hr /> <p><em>When people are filled with love, they project love. Not hate…</em><br /><a href='https://twitter.com/share?text=When+people+are+filled+with+love%2C+they+project+love.+%26nbsp%3BNot+hate...&via=RMLLoveCoach&related=RMLLoveCoach&url=https://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/' target='_blank'>Click To Tweet</a></p> <hr /> <p style="text-align: left;">For the purposes of this article I’m using the word hate, to be quite honest I don’t really believe in ‘hate’… I believe that <strong>what we <em>experience</em> as ‘hate’ is actually nothing more than fear in disguise.</strong></p> <p style="text-align: left;">But since most of us weren’t taught how to <em>express</em> our fear in a way that <em>empowers</em> us, it seethes, it ferments, it seeps out through the cracks in our being, shoots daggers from our eyes and it froths out of our mouths.</p> <p style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #993366;"><em><strong>We forget that our words are creating our world</strong> – everyone is being affected whether we aware of it, or agree with it or not.</em></span></p> <p style="text-align: left;"> <hr /> <p><em>What we experience as ‘hate’ is actually nothing more than fear in disguise. </em><br /><a href='https://twitter.com/share?text=What+we+experience+as+%27hate%27+is+actually+nothing+more+than+fear+in+disguise.+&via=RMLLoveCoach&related=RMLLoveCoach&url=https://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/' target='_blank'>Click To Tweet</a></p> <hr /> <figure id="attachment_5791" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-5791" style="width: 645px" class="wp-caption aligncenter"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/name-calling-self-love-modern-day-wise-woman/" rel="attachment wp-att-5791"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="wp-image-5791" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/name-calling-self-love-modern-day-wise-woman.jpg" alt="name calling self-love modern day wise woman" width="645" height="363" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/name-calling-self-love-modern-day-wise-woman.jpg 849w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/name-calling-self-love-modern-day-wise-woman-600x338.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/name-calling-self-love-modern-day-wise-woman-300x169.jpg 300w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a><figcaption id="caption-attachment-5791" class="wp-caption-text">Step 1: What is the major life lesson I need to learn right now?</figcaption></figure> <p> </p> <p>When you find yourself in an unpleasant situation you always have two choices: you can a) wallow in self-pity and allow yourself to be a victim or b) you can ask yourself <strong>‘what is the major life lesson I need to learn right now?’</strong></p> <p>Once you are clear about what major life lesson you are being shown, asked, summoned (or dragged kicking and screaming) to learn you are ready for the next step and to put an end to the name calling in your relationship once and for all. <strong>If you didn’t already guess what the major life lesson you need to learn is, I’ll tell you what it is…</strong></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><span style="color: #993366; text-decoration: underline;"> It’s time for you to stand up for yourself, where you haven’t been… It’s time to say ‘enough!’ And when you say it, say it with power. Mean it! You must make it clear that <strong>you will not continue communication in a toxic space</strong> (when they are calling you names); but that are you more than willing to have an adult conversation when they are ready</span></em></span></p> <p>Be open to the <em>possibility</em> of this being resolved quickly, but understand that you are trying to change your behaviour as well as your partner/friend/business partner’s behaviour. You must be patient.</p> <p><strong>Likely</strong>, <strong>it will take time, practice, multiple conversations and quite possibly the even the assistance of a coach or therapist. </strong>The more you practice the quicker you will see results.</p> <hr /> <p><em>It’s time for you to stand up for yourself, where you haven’t been… It’s time to say enough!</em><br /><a href='https://twitter.com/share?text=It%27s+time+for+you+to+stand+up+for+yourself%2C+where+you+haven%27t+been...+It%27s+time+to+say+enough%21&via=RMLLoveCoach&related=RMLLoveCoach&url=https://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/' target='_blank'>Click To Tweet</a></p> <hr /> <p> </p> <figure id="attachment_5785" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-5785" style="width: 645px" class="wp-caption aligncenter"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/mentally/" rel="attachment wp-att-5785"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="wp-image-5785" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/mentally.jpg" alt="name calling + stop + modern day wise woman + self-love" width="645" height="428" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/mentally.jpg 775w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/mentally-600x398.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/mentally-300x199.jpg 300w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a><figcaption id="caption-attachment-5785" class="wp-caption-text">Step 2: It’s time to say ‘Enough!’ Say it with power. And mean it.</figcaption></figure> <p> </p> <p><strong>I</strong><strong>t’s so important that you see for yourself right now in this moment that someone calling you names is absolutely forgivable, but it is unacceptable behaviour going forward.</strong> The person that is calling you names is not a ‘<em>bad</em>‘ person… I’m sure that there are really crappy, ugly, and emotionally terrorizing things that you do to others too when you are upset with them. For example in some instances your silence is like stabbing a lethal injection right into your partners heart… And you know this and you do it anyway…</p> <p>No one here is a saint. With that being said the only person who is 100% responsible for you is you.</p> <p><em><span style="color: #993366;">So it’s up to you to make it clear that <span style="text-decoration: underline;">you will no longer tolerate</span> being called a ‘ bitch’, ‘pathetic’, ‘stupid’, ‘lazy’, ‘worthless’, ‘heifer’, ‘piece of sh!t’… Or any word(s) that leaves you feeling holistically unloved, undervalued, dishonoured, dismissed, disrespected, silenced, enraged or enslaved, in fear or powerless.</span></em></p> <p>You are the one who must <strong>speak up</strong>, stand up if necessary, <strong>be absofreakinglutely unwavering</strong> about the fact that this behaviour and way of talking to you must end immediately. Note, this is going to be very scary for you. <strong>Be very prepared</strong> for your boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, lover, business partner, whoever it is to loose their mind. Why? Because you just flipped the script. Being ‘nasty’ will no longer buy them power or allow them to win.</p> <hr /> <p><em>You just flipped the script. Being ‘nasty’ will no longer buy them power or allow them to win.</em><br /><a href='https://twitter.com/share?text=You+just+flipped+the+script.+Being+%27nasty%27+will+no+longer+buy+them+power+or+allow+them+to+win.&via=RMLLoveCoach&related=RMLLoveCoach&url=https://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/' target='_blank'>Click To Tweet</a></p> <hr /> <p> </p> <p><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/couples-3-love-24717298-500-335/" rel="attachment wp-att-5803"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5803" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/couples-3-love-24717298-500-335.jpg" alt="couples in love modern day wise woman" width="645" height="432" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/couples-3-love-24717298-500-335.jpg 640w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/couples-3-love-24717298-500-335-600x402.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/couples-3-love-24717298-500-335-300x201.jpg 300w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></p> <p>And just to be clear. <strong>This is not a game</strong>. I’m not trying to teach you how to <em>manipulate</em> or ‘pull the rug’ out from under another person. <strong><span style="color: #993366;">What I’m teaching you is how to love yourself</span></strong>. <span style="color: #993366;"><strong>How to respect and love yourself to the highest degree; and train others that you will not accept anything less than that anymor</strong><strong>e</strong>.</span></p> <p>Also if you are truly committed to the growth of that other person don’t let them get away with this stuff. <strong>You being silent doesn’t help them to grow – instead it stifles them. </strong>So don’t feel guilty about speaking up. When you do your very best to be your best self, you give your partner permission to do the same. You grow together.</p> <hr /> <p><em>When you do your very best to be your best self, you give your partner permission to do the same. You grow together.</em><br /><a href='https://twitter.com/share?text=When+you+do+your+very+best+to+be+your+best+self%2C+you+give+your+partner+permission+to+do+the+same.+You+grow+together.&via=RMLLoveCoach&related=RMLLoveCoach&url=https://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/' target='_blank'>Click To Tweet</a></p> <hr /> <p> </p> <figure id="attachment_5799" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-5799" style="width: 645px" class="wp-caption aligncenter"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/attachment/5799/" rel="attachment wp-att-5799"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="wp-image-5799" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/bugs-in-your-gut_hands-making-heart-over-stomach_image.jpg" alt="Create a self-care regime" width="645" height="597" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/bugs-in-your-gut_hands-making-heart-over-stomach_image.jpg 1125w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/bugs-in-your-gut_hands-making-heart-over-stomach_image-300x278.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/bugs-in-your-gut_hands-making-heart-over-stomach_image-1024x948.jpg 1024w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/bugs-in-your-gut_hands-making-heart-over-stomach_image-768x711.jpg 768w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/bugs-in-your-gut_hands-making-heart-over-stomach_image-600x555.jpg 600w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a><figcaption id="caption-attachment-5799" class="wp-caption-text">Step 3: Create & stick to your self-care routine.</figcaption></figure> <p> </p> <p><strong>When we do not feel worthy, we lower our standards… We accept being treated poorly…</strong> One of the most effective ways to increase your self-worth is to create a self-care routine as a part of your <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/coaching/">self-love program</a></span>. Self-care involves learning <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/">how to release unhealthy anger</a>,</span> learning <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/how-to-allow-pleasure-by-healing-the-sacral-chakra/">how to allow pleasure </a>, </span>learning <a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/how-to-stop-falling-off-the-wagon/">how to stop falling off the wagon</a> and so much more.</p> <p><em><span style="color: #993366;">Taking care of yourself mind, body and spirit has you energetically become someone who is <span style="text-decoration: underline;">no longer a vibrational match for that kind of loveless style of communication.</span> You will also feel even better about yourself than you do right now; which will inevitably lead you to raise your standards and let go of all kinds of things that you once found acceptable.</span></em></p> <p>As you begin to expand your concept of <strong>self-love</strong>, explore new opportunities to practice<strong> self-care</strong> you will also come across all kinds of really fun, awesome and funky things to try which will also assist you in healing your root chakra – so you can heal all aspects of your self (past and present) and organically lessen instances of name calling in your current relationships.</p> <p> </p> <figure id="attachment_5800" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-5800" style="width: 645px" class="wp-caption aligncenter"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/yoga-bridge-pose/" rel="attachment wp-att-5800"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="wp-image-5800" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/bridge.jpg" alt="Root Chakra Healing Yoga (Bridge Pose)" width="645" height="430" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/bridge.jpg 900w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/bridge-300x200.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/bridge-768x512.jpg 768w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/bridge-600x400.jpg 600w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a><figcaption id="caption-attachment-5800" class="wp-caption-text">Step 4: Energy Home Work, Root Chakra Energy Healing Exercise</figcaption></figure> <p> </p> <p><strong>A great tip to help you release energy which may being blocked in your root chakra is to do a variation of what is known in yoga as the bridge pose.</strong><b> </b>It’s simplicity allow you to really settle your <em>mind</em>, <em>breath</em> in and out nice and slowly, and ground yourself while stimulating the <em>flow</em> of energy to your root chakra.</p> <p><em><span style="color: #993366;">T</span></em><em><span style="color: #993366;">he idea is to push your lower back towards the floor. Then push your butt upwards. Go ahead and try this for a few days and notice how your body feels…</span></em></p> <p>Many of my clients have reported that they notice that <strong>they stand/walk taller</strong>, some say that they feel as though <strong>they command attention</strong> when they walk into a room and few have mentioned that <strong>they feel stronger</strong> when they are in an argument with their partner.</p> <p> </p> <figure id="attachment_5801" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-5801" style="width: 645px" class="wp-caption aligncenter"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love/" rel="attachment wp-att-5801"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="wp-image-5801" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love.jpeg" alt="name calling modern day wise woman self-love" width="645" height="429" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love.jpeg 1600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love-300x200.jpeg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love-1024x682.jpeg 1024w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love-768x511.jpeg 768w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love-1536x1022.jpeg 1536w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love-900x600.jpeg 900w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/name-calling-modern-day-wise-woman-self-love-600x399.jpeg 600w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a><figcaption id="caption-attachment-5801" class="wp-caption-text">Step 5: Work with an Self-Love Coach & Energy Healer to dive deeper.</figcaption></figure> <p><strong>Always be sure to consult your physician as well as an <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/energy-healing/">energy healer</a></span> if you are experiencing any pain or discomfort in your body.</strong> Remember, just as you would see your family doctor regularly for a physical or your dentist to get your teeth cleaned, it is important to schedule regular visits with an <a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/energy-healing/">energy healer</a>.</p> <p>In this article <strong>I’ve given you some of the most simplest, yet effective steps to prevent you from being attacked again and help you heal any old wounds.</strong> Because name calling affects us in so many ways and on so many levels I always recommend working one one one with a coach and healer – these coaches and practitioners are trained to detect emotional imbalances, tears or blockages in your energy field and issues that are affecting you emotionally at a subconscious level.</p> <p><em><span style="color: #993366;">Today we looked at the root chakra, but did you know that there 6 other chakras also affected by name calling. Yes! 6 others…. The root is just the beginning.</span></em></p> <p>Name calling isn’t pretty that’s true, but no one ever said that loving would be easy or pretty. Each of us are fighting to be loved, to be heard, to be validated or as Oprah would say, ‘we want to know that we matter’… Know that when you are standing up for yourself, you are standing for love.</p> <p><strong>You can do it. I believe in you. </strong></p> <p>You are awesome… Awesome… That’s a name I hope you carry with you for a lifetime.</p> <h4>xoxo Renee</h4> <figure id="attachment_5767" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-5767" style="width: 164px" class="wp-caption alignleft"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/img_3528/" rel="attachment wp-att-5767"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="wp-image-5767 size-medium" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/IMG_3528-164x300.jpg" alt="" width="164" height="300"></a><figcaption id="caption-attachment-5767" class="wp-caption-text">Renee Mullings-Lewis Self-Love Coach & Energy Healer</figcaption></figure> <p> </p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>https://reneemullingslewis.com/name-calling-hurts-but-only-you-can-stop-it/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item> <title>HOW TO STOP BEING ANGRY ALL THE TIME</title> <link>https://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/</link> <comments>https://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/#respond</comments> <dc:creator><![CDATA[Renee Mullings-Lewis]]></dc:creator> <pubDate>Mon, 23 Jun 2014 14:08:48 +0000</pubDate> <category><![CDATA[body]]></category> <category><![CDATA[mind]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Self-Love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[soul]]></category> <category><![CDATA[anger]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Coscmic Fire]]></category> <category><![CDATA[divine]]></category> <category><![CDATA[energy]]></category> <category><![CDATA[energy healing]]></category> <category><![CDATA[letting go of anger]]></category> <category><![CDATA[love coach]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Modern Day Wise Woman]]></category> <category><![CDATA[release anger]]></category> <category><![CDATA[renee mullings-lewis]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-empowerment]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-help]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love coaching]]></category> <category><![CDATA[spirituality]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Toronto]]></category> <category><![CDATA[wise woman]]></category> <category><![CDATA[women]]></category> <guid isPermaLink="false">http://reneemullingslewis.com/?p=5644</guid> <description><![CDATA[Why we experience anger We experience unhealthy anger when our inherently peaceful state, is harassed, taunted, cajoled and tampered with by fear based thoughts driven by the Ego. Anytime that we are in a partnership with another human being (romantic, business or otherwise), we will inevitably experience anger. Anger is what I like to call […]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<h4 class="gmail_default"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/arguing-couples/" rel="attachment wp-att-5645"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5645 size-full" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/arguing-couples.jpg" alt="release unhealthy anger now" width="640" height="426" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/arguing-couples.jpg 640w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/arguing-couples-600x399.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/arguing-couples-300x200.jpg 300w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px" /></a></h4> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <h4 class="gmail_default"><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Why we experience anger</span></strong></h4> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">We experience unhealthy anger when our inherently peaceful state, is harassed, taunted, cajoled and tampered with by fear based thoughts driven by the Ego. Anytime that we are in a partnership with another human being (romantic, business or otherwise), we will inevitably experience anger. Anger is what I like to call a KEI (key emotional indicator) – anger let’s you know immediately that something in your immediate surroundings, your life or within you is out of alignment and that whatever it is requires your immediate attention.</span></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <div class="gmail_default"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/scolded-girl/" rel="attachment wp-att-5646"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5646" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/scolded-girl.jpg" alt="release your unhealthy anger now" width="645" height="430" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/scolded-girl.jpg 1236w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/scolded-girl-600x400.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/scolded-girl-300x200.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/scolded-girl-1024x683.jpg 1024w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <h4 class="gmail_default"><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Not all anger is bad</span></strong></h4> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Anger, like all of the colours within the spectrum, can be beautiful and useful. And in fact, anger will often catapult us into spiritual experiences that force us to grow – valuable experiences that we may not have found otherwise… But when anger is misused, abused or ignored it is dangerous. At best it stagnates and stunts our growth; and at worst it destroys us. You see the problem is that most us unfortunately were never taught how to recognize, understand and express our anger is a healthy spiritual way. Instead we were taught to be ‘nice’, ‘play fair’, ‘share’, ‘be good, ‘ stop shouting’ and ‘stop whining’ and ‘ be quiet’…</span></div> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"> </span></div> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Over the years this constant suppression of anger blurs our sense of self, alters our personality, taints our view of the world and creates very noticeable symptoms in your physical and emotional being.</span></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <div class="gmail_default"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/midnight-snacking/" rel="attachment wp-att-5648"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5648" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/midnight-snacking.jpg" alt="midnight-snacking" width="645" height="403" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/midnight-snacking.jpg 1680w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/midnight-snacking-600x375.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/midnight-snacking-300x188.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/midnight-snacking-1024x640.jpg 1024w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/midnight-snacking-1600x1000.jpg 1600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/midnight-snacking-800x500.jpg 800w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></div> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <h4 class="gmail_default"><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Symptoms of unhealthy anger</span></strong></h4> <ul> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Digestive issues.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Bladder related issues.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Insomnia.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Night eating/snacking.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Cancers – all kinds.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Sudden loss of sight.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Uncontrollable rage.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Miscarriage.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Fear of intimacy.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Rapid or excessive weight gain.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Difficulty making and keeping friends.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Heart conditions – heart attack/blockages.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Dangerous sexual behaviour or violent sexual desires.</span></li> </ul> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <h4 class="gmail_default"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/ntk/" rel="attachment wp-att-5650"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5650" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/ntk.jpg" alt="ntk" width="645" height="484" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/ntk.jpg 3264w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/ntk-600x450.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/ntk-300x225.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/ntk-1024x768.jpg 1024w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></h4> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <h4 class="gmail_default"><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">The 4 steps you need to know</span></strong></h4> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"> </span></div> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">In today’s society, anger is most often used a weapon for combat when it was truly meant to be used a divine tool for love. If you are reading this article it is because you are ready to release your unhealthy anger now; and you are ready to learn new ways to process your anger powerfully and responsibly. This 4 step process is the process that I use with all of my clients and it is the starting point for you to begin to release any unhealthy anger you are walking around with today.</span></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"> </span></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <div class="gmail_default"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/bigstock-enjoyment-free-happy-woman-e-43000426/" rel="attachment wp-att-5649"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5649" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/bigstock-Enjoyment-free-happy-woman-e-43000426.jpg" alt="Release anger modern day wise woman" width="645" height="430" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/bigstock-Enjoyment-free-happy-woman-e-43000426.jpg 900w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/bigstock-Enjoyment-free-happy-woman-e-43000426-600x400.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/bigstock-Enjoyment-free-happy-woman-e-43000426-300x200.jpg 300w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <h4 class="gmail_default"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Modern Day Wise Woman Anger Filtration Process <img src="https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/15.0.3/72x72/2122.png" alt="™" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" /></span></strong></span></h4> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"><strong><span style="color: #800080;">1. Recognize your anger:</span></strong> Here what you want to do is begin to recognize the changes that happen in your body when you are angry. The more you are able to notice how your breathing changes, your body temperature changes and how you feel in your body when anger is arising the more you will be able to feel, express and process it responsibly.</span></div> <h4 class="gmail_default"></h4> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"><strong><span style="color: #800080;">2. Honour your anger: </span></strong><span style="color: #000000;">This is perhaps one of the most difficult steps. This step involves allowing yourself to feel angry without blaming yourself or anyone else involved in the situation. Here you want to just feel the anger. In most cases what people notice is that they aren’t really angry, but underneath it all, they are actually hurt or in pain. When you are finally able to feel the pain beyond the rage you are now ready to begin to release it.</span></span></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <h4 class="gmail_default"></h4> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"><strong><span style="color: #800080;">3. Express your anger: </span></strong><span style="color: #000000;">Now you are ready to express your anger. This step involves owning your own anger (your own experience) and now asking for the love and support of another human being to assist you in healing. Remember it isn’t your partner’s, your best friend’s, your boss’s, your parents (or anyone else’s) responsibilities to heal you or to take away your anger. Expressing your anger is an act of love that you give to yourself in the presence and partnership of another. And in doing so, regardless of what the other person says; or if they validate your experience; or not; you are still whole and complete for yourself. </span></span></div> <h4 class="gmail_default"></h4> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"><strong><span style="color: #800080;">4. Redirect your anger: </span></strong><span style="color: #800080;"><span style="color: #000000;">If you have successfully completed the first three steps in this process, you will notice that you feel lighter and that physiological symptoms of anger you were experiencing are beginning to dissipate. Awesome you’ve begun to successfully release the unhealthy anger. But now you need to ensure that anger that you let go of has been properly re-directed. You want to make sure that the person who helped you to release your anger isn’t now stuck carrying your anger. So wow that you’ve released some of your anger, you can now hold the space for them to release any residual anger that may be lingering for them. You want to ensure that as much anger as possible is filtered out until only love is present. </span></span></span></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <div class="gmail_default"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/meditation_pond_3/" rel="attachment wp-att-5652"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5652" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Meditation_Pond_3.jpg" alt="Meditation modern day wise woman" width="645" height="455" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Meditation_Pond_3.jpg 673w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Meditation_Pond_3-600x423.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Meditation_Pond_3-300x212.jpg 300w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></div> <h1></h1> <h4 class="gmail_default"><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Filter out and release your unhealthy anger regularly</span></strong></h4> <p><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Now that you have these 4 steps I strongly encourage you to practice them regularly or even daily if needed. Essentially what you are doing by practicing this 4 step process is filtering out the bits of anger that are no longer healthy or needed. Once all of the anger is successfully filtered and redirected you will no longer be ‘gripped’ by your anger. And the more you practice this process, the less you will experience unhealthy anger. Now please note, this does not mean that the situation you facing will magically correct itself… But what it does mean is that you will be able to face your situation with power and grace vs. behaving like an emotionally rabid dog, with no other strategies other than defend or attack.</span></p> <h1></h1> <p> </p> <p><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/energy-healing-therapy/" rel="attachment wp-att-5651"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5651" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/energy-healing-therapy.jpg" alt="energy-healing-therapy" width="645" height="424" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/energy-healing-therapy.jpg 525w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/energy-healing-therapy-300x197.jpg 300w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></p> <h1></h1> <p><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Work with an expert</span></strong></p> <p><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">If you are experiencing any of the symptoms listed above, or even if you feel totally fine but want a ‘spiritual check up’, I would also recommend that schedule a <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/energy-healing/reiki/">reiki session</a></span>, <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/energy-healing/">energy healing session</a></span> or <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/coaching/">coaching session</a></span> with an expert who specializes in self-love healing, self-relization and emotional balancing. Working with a trained professional will allow you to accelerate your healing process. Remember you don’t have to do this alone. Seek support today so you can feel better and start living better now. </span></p> <p><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Lots of love. Be Well.</span></p> <h4><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">xoxo Renee</span></h4> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>https://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item> <title>6 WAYS TO BE SEXIER IN 6 MINUTES</title> <link>https://reneemullingslewis.com/6-ways-to-be-sexier-in-6-minutes/</link> <comments>https://reneemullingslewis.com/6-ways-to-be-sexier-in-6-minutes/#respond</comments> <dc:creator><![CDATA[Renee Mullings-Lewis]]></dc:creator> <pubDate>Mon, 09 Jun 2014 13:43:55 +0000</pubDate> <category><![CDATA[body]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Self-Love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[attraction]]></category> <category><![CDATA[be sexier in 6 minutes]]></category> <category><![CDATA[BE SEXY]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Coscmic Fire]]></category> <category><![CDATA[how to be sexier]]></category> <category><![CDATA[love coach]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Modern Day Wise Woman]]></category> <category><![CDATA[reiki]]></category> <category><![CDATA[renee mullings-lewis]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-empowerment]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-help]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[SEXY]]></category> <category><![CDATA[SEXY WOMEN TORONTO]]></category> <category><![CDATA[spirituality]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Toronto]]></category> <category><![CDATA[vulnerability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[wise woman]]></category> <guid isPermaLink="false">http://reneemullingslewis.com/?p=5539</guid> <description><![CDATA[6 WAYS TO BE SEXIER IN 6 MINUTES ‘Sexy’ is not something that you can buy in a store… It has nothing to do with your age, the number on the scale, the length of your hair, the colour of your skin or how ‘pretty’ other people think you are. True sexiness is an energy. […]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<h1 style="text-align: center;"><strong><span style="color: #fb00b0;">6 WAYS TO BE SEXIER IN 6 MINUTES</span></strong></h1> <p>‘Sexy’ is not something that you can buy in a store… It has nothing to do with your age, the number on the scale, the length of your hair, the colour of your skin or how ‘pretty’ other people think you are. <strong>True sexiness is an energy.</strong> It’s roots must be firmly planted within your <em>mind</em>, <em>body</em> and <em>soul</em> in order for it’s enchanting magic to bloom and been seen on the outside. True sexiness cannot be faked, tamed or imitated. <strong>You are being your sexiest when you are being authentically YOU.</strong></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/6-ways-to-be-sexier-in-6-minutes/im-too-fat-modern-day-wise-woman/" rel="attachment wp-att-5542"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5542" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/im-too-fat-modern-day-wise-woman.jpg" alt="i'm too fat modern day wise woman" width="645" height="431" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/im-too-fat-modern-day-wise-woman.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/im-too-fat-modern-day-wise-woman-300x201.jpg 300w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></p> <h1></h1> <p>If you’re anything like me, <strong> you’ve done all kinds of things</strong> at one time or another in your life to try to be sexier – Dieting, self-help books, popping pills, ‘makeovers’, therapy, trying to keep up with the latest fashion trends… I could go on and on. And in most the cases the media is not our friend.</p> <p>By the time we are 10 years old our minds have been littered with messages of what the ‘<strong>perfect</strong>‘ woman looks like; our bodies have been <strong>hustled</strong> into thinking that <strong>dangerous</strong> eating habits are the hottest trend; and our spirits have been <strong>manipulated</strong> into believing that we need to take this course, read that book, buy only this food and speak like that in order to finally be <strong>‘good enough’. </strong></p> <h1></h1> <p>At the end of the day we must remember that like womanhood, being sexy and truly falling head over heels in love with every inch of ourselves (mind, body and soul) is our greatest journey and our sole purpose in life. <strong>Believe me, there is nothing sexier than a woman who is intently, purposefully, wildly, divinely in love with herself </strong>– a free woman who isn’t in search for love, she knows that she is love.</p> <p><span style="color: #333399;"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em>She knows she’s sexy</em></span></strong>,<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong> she exudes that energy</strong></em></span></span> and the Universe unites her with others of like energy. Without further ado here are 6 simple ways to summon your most authentic self to the surface and be sexier in 6 minutes.</p> <h1></h1> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/6-ways-to-be-sexier-in-6-minutes/woman-looking-mirror/" rel="attachment wp-att-5546"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5546" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/woman-looking-mirror.jpg" alt="woman-looking-mirror" width="645" height="429" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/woman-looking-mirror.jpg 1280w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/woman-looking-mirror-600x399.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/woman-looking-mirror-300x200.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/woman-looking-mirror-1024x682.jpg 1024w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="color: #800080;"><strong>1. Flaunt What You Love Instead of Hiding What You Hate</strong></span></p> <p>Looking in the mirror these days is not child’s play. We say some of the most <strong>hurtful</strong> and unloving things to ourselves when we are looking ourselves right in the face in front of the mirror. We look for <strong>flaws</strong> and imperfections. We look at ourselves a collection of parts instead of seeing a whole. And our morning preparation turns into a wild circus act of painting on a face and throwing on fabric to <strong>hide</strong> (or conceal) what we hate.</p> <p>From this point on here is some <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/coaching/basic-coaching/">self-love coaching</a></strong></span> for you. When you go the mirror <strong>see your body as a whole</strong>. Start from your head to your toe. Be committed to <strong><span style="color: #333399;">noticing what you love first</span></strong>. From now on when you get ready in the morning your only mission is to flaunt, accentuate, offer and play up what you love about yourself. You no longer need to worry about <strong>hiding</strong> what you don’t like. Because the minute you no longer <strong>focus</strong> on those things, no one else will focus on them either.</p> <h1></h1> <p><span style="color: #800080;"><strong>2. Be Playful Instead of Perfect</strong></span></p> <p>Okay so this point is all about kicking back and <strong>chillaxing</strong>. Seriously most of the time, we are <strong>trying way too hard</strong> to look feel or look sexy. We think that being sexy requires effort and it doesn’t. It’s okay if your hair isn’t perfectly straightened, if your nails aren’t painted, if they’ve already seen you in that dress, if you rock a messy bun, if you add a funky scarf or you go completely bare faced with just a little gloss. The key here is<strong><span style="color: #800080;"><span style="color: #333399;"> you must be comfortable</span></span></strong> and playful. When you are playful you are <strong>fun</strong> and awesome to be around. So chill out a little and <strong>try a little less</strong>.</p> <p> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/6-ways-to-be-sexier-in-6-minutes/lips-modern-day-wise-woman/" rel="attachment wp-att-5544"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5544" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/lips-modern-day-wise-woman.jpg" alt="lips modern day wise woman" width="645" height="296" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/lips-modern-day-wise-woman.jpg 980w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/lips-modern-day-wise-woman-600x276.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/lips-modern-day-wise-woman-300x138.jpg 300w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></p> <h1></h1> <p><span style="color: #800080;"><strong>3. Pucker Up and Smile</strong></span></p> <p>This is a simple one. Never leave home without a <strong>lip moisturizer</strong> or lip gloss. Your lips are what you do all of your taking with. They are a bridge for communication so its very important that you take care of them. Be aware that at every moment your lips are sending out a strong messages about your state of mind, your health and your availability. And they are either <strong>inviting</strong> people in or <strong>pushing people away.</strong> Well hydrated smiling lips say ‘<span style="color: #333399;"><strong>YES</strong>!</span>‘. Chapped, uncared for frowning lips say <span style="color: #333399;"><strong>‘I’M NOT AVAILABLE</strong></span>‘. So keep your lips happy and not only will you feel sexier, but they will literally attract exciting opportunities into your life.</p> <h1></h1> <p><span style="color: #800080;"><strong>4. Pump of the Volume and Shake Your Booty <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p1JPKLa-Ofc&feature=kp"><span style="color: #800080;">(<span style="text-decoration: underline;">Beyonce’s Drunk In Love Anyone?)</span></span></a></strong></span></p> <p>Ah! I’m so excited about this point!! <strong>Music</strong> is the key to elevating any mood and infusing your body with <strong>vibrations</strong> that naturally bring you back to your naturally sexy state. I really encourage you to make music a part of your morning routine at some point. Silence is great for meditation, but music is great for your hips, <strong>balancing feminine energy</strong> and getting you all juiced up. You may feel a little shy at first, but if you allow yourself to go beyond that point you’ll see how much sexier you feel almost <strong>instantly</strong>.</p> <h1></h1> <p><span style="color: #800080;"><strong>5. Wear Bold Make-Up</strong></span></p> <p>Sometimes in order to reach <strong>new heights of sexiness</strong> we need to venture out to new territories of self-expression. Your body is your canvas. Most of us get trapped into only displaying the parts of ourselves that we feel are <strong>normal</strong>, acceptable or appropriate… So my challenge to you today is to do something edgy. Maybe that means wearing no make up at all if your one of those women who could never leave the house without make up; or maybe it’s finally dying your hair that <strong>wild colour</strong> you’ve always wanted to; or wearing a <strong>smokey eye</strong> shadow in the middle of the day for no reason at all. Make up is meant to be fun, and when used to <strong><span style="color: #800080;"><span style="color: #333399;">express love rather than conceal hate</span> </span></strong><span style="color: #000000;">it</span> can be one of the best things to have in your ‘be sexy tool kit’</p> <p> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/6-ways-to-be-sexier-in-6-minutes/stop-aplogizing-modern-day-wise-woman/" rel="attachment wp-att-5545"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5545" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/stop-aplogizing-modern-day-wise-woman.jpg" alt="stop aplogizing modern day wise woman" width="645" height="430" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/stop-aplogizing-modern-day-wise-woman.jpg 1600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/stop-aplogizing-modern-day-wise-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/stop-aplogizing-modern-day-wise-woman-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/stop-aplogizing-modern-day-wise-woman-768x512.jpg 768w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/stop-aplogizing-modern-day-wise-woman-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/stop-aplogizing-modern-day-wise-woman-900x600.jpg 900w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/stop-aplogizing-modern-day-wise-woman-600x400.jpg 600w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></p> <h1></h1> <p><span style="color: #800080;"><strong>6. Stop Apologizing</strong></span></p> <p>Let’s face it most of us are not adept at knowing how to responsibly process uncomfortable emotions such as <strong>fear</strong>, anger, guilt and <strong>shame</strong>. I spend literally hours a week <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/coaching/">coaching</a></span> and <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/energy-healing/">healing</a> </span>women who are walking around with nearly crippling amounts of <strong>emotional baggage</strong> they didn’t even know they were carrying around in their subconscious or cellular memory.</p> <p>We have this tendency to think that when we’ve learned a lesson, we’ve learned it for good. We forget that the life lessons always keeps repeating themselves in different ways in our lives and will continue to do so until we die.</p> <p><strong>The key here is to stop apologizing for being human</strong>. This means stop explaining or apologizing for the extra weight your carrying, for the business risk you took that failed, for the bill you forgot to pay, for the fact that your 40 and not married yet, for pissing people off when you <strong>speak your truth</strong>.</p> <p>Stop apologizing. <strong>Embrace your humanity</strong>. Say to yourself <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><span style="color: #800080; text-decoration: underline;"><strong>‘<span style="color: #333399; text-decoration: underline;"> I am learning from this experience</span></strong></span></span><span style="color: #333399;">‘</span>. Remember you don’t always have to be the master. You are also a student in life. When you can really embrace your own humanity, which is part of creating a solid foundation of self-love you are undeniably sexy to yourself and those who matter.</p> <h1 style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/6-ways-to-be-sexier-in-6-minutes/love-your-body-modern-day-wise-woman/" rel="attachment wp-att-5554"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-5554" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/love-your-body-modern-day-wise-woman.jpg" alt="love-your-body modern day wise woman" width="586" height="421" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/love-your-body-modern-day-wise-woman.jpg 586w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/love-your-body-modern-day-wise-woman-300x216.jpg 300w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 586px) 100vw, 586px" /></a></h1> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>The more you see YOU, the more you WILL SEE that you are ALREADY NATURALLY SEXY</strong></span>. There is absolutely nothing else you need to do; nothing else you need to buy; nothing else you need to read; and nothing else you need to get. Everything you need you already have. True sexiness is an energy. Let yourself shine.</p> <p>xoxo</p> <h4>Renee</h4> <h4>Your Self-Love Coach</h4> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>https://reneemullingslewis.com/6-ways-to-be-sexier-in-6-minutes/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item> <title>HOW TO STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER</title> <link>https://reneemullingslewis.com/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser/</link> <comments>https://reneemullingslewis.com/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser/#respond</comments> <dc:creator><![CDATA[Renee Mullings-Lewis]]></dc:creator> <pubDate>Sun, 25 May 2014 19:16:55 +0000</pubDate> <category><![CDATA[mind]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Self-Love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Coscmic Fire]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Courage]]></category> <category><![CDATA[divine]]></category> <category><![CDATA[energy healing]]></category> <category><![CDATA[love coach]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Modern Day Wise Woman]]></category> <category><![CDATA[people pleasing]]></category> <category><![CDATA[reiki]]></category> <category><![CDATA[relationships]]></category> <category><![CDATA[renee mullings-lewis]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-empowerment]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love coach]]></category> <category><![CDATA[solar plexus chakra]]></category> <category><![CDATA[spirituality]]></category> <category><![CDATA[wise woman]]></category> <category><![CDATA[women]]></category> <guid isPermaLink="false">http://reneemullingslewis.com/?p=5500</guid> <description><![CDATA[HOW TO STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER We’re all guilty of doing this from time to time… What am I talking about? PEOPLE PLEASING. Have you ever noticed just how guilty or bad you feel when you have to say ‘no’ to someone? Or how you will bend, twist yourself into a human pretzel, climb Everest, do […]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<h1 style="text-align: center;"><strong><span style="color: #fb00b0;">HOW TO STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER</span></strong></h1> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif;"> </span></div> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">We’re all guilty of doing this from time to time… What am I talking about? <strong>PEOPLE PLEASING.</strong> Have you ever noticed just how guilty or bad you feel when you have to say ‘no’ to someone? Or how you will bend, twist yourself into a human pretzel, climb Everest, do back flips, slave, wring your spirit completely dry and use every last ounce of your energy just so you can say ‘yes’ to someone’s request? Insane right? And yet so many of us can’t see him to stop saying ‘yes’ when we really ought to say ‘no’.</span></div> <h1 class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"> </span></h1> <p class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">When we lack the will power to say ‘no’, we run the risk of winding up physically, emotionally and spiritually ship wrecked. <strong>More specifically, the energy center known as the ‘solar plexus’ goes completely out of balance; and, when that happens all kinds of things in our bodies, our relationships and our lives get messed up</strong>. So in today’s article I’m going to make sure you leave knowing the <em>warning signs of dangerous people pleasing</em> and<em> a 3 step question </em>to help you kill your off your disease to please.</span></p> </div> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #333333;"> </span></span></div> <h4 class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222; text-align: center;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser/stomach-pains-after-eating/" rel="attachment wp-att-5503"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5503" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/Stomach-Pains-After-Eating.jpg" alt="stomach pains modern day wise woman" width="645" height="430" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/Stomach-Pains-After-Eating.jpg 2122w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/Stomach-Pains-After-Eating-600x400.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/Stomach-Pains-After-Eating-300x200.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/Stomach-Pains-After-Eating-1024x683.jpg 1024w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></h4> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"></div> <h1 class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"></h1> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"><strong>Physical Dysfunctions:</strong> Did you know that people pleasing is one of the leading causes of spiritual dysfunction and unexplained illness in the body? Symptoms of people pleasing include: exhaustion, unmanageable irritability, rapid weight gain, IBS, upset stomach upset or stomach viruses (including the stomach flu), unexplained abdominal pain, ulcers, nausea, gallstones, binge eating, anorexia, bulimia, constant feelings of wanting to be alone/escape or run away, anxiety and more.</span></div> <h4 class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"></h4> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"><strong>Main Issues: </strong>Developing personal power, self-will, self-confidence and courage/moving through fear.</span></div> <h4 class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"></h4> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"><strong>Crystals:</strong> Yellow citrine, topaz, aventurine and sunstone.</span></div> </div> <h1 class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"></h1> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"></div> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222; text-align: center;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/coaching/cosmic-fire-program/" rel="attachment wp-att-5504"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5504" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/SAY-NO-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman.jpg" alt="SAY NO Modern Day Wise Woman" width="645" height="484" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/SAY-NO-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman.jpg 2560w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/SAY-NO-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman-600x450.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/SAY-NO-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman-300x225.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/SAY-NO-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman-1024x768.jpg 1024w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></div> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"></div> <h1 class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"></h1> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"></div> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"><span style="color: #800080;"><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">People pleasing or (not being able to say ‘NO’ happens when we stop caring for these 3 things:</span></strong></span></div> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"> </span></div> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">1. Our healthy personal boundaries.</span></div> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">2. Our standards/how we want to be treated or feel.</span></div> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">3. Our connection to our instincts/intuition.</span></div> </div> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"></div> <h1 class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"></h1> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"><span style="color: #800080;"><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">So the three questions you need ask yourself before saying ‘yes’ to anything else are:</span></strong></span></div> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"> </span></div> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">1. Am I respecting myself and my personal boundaries right now if I say yes?</span></div> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">2. Am I honouring myself and my standards if I say yes?</span></div> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">3. Is this something that feels right and I am at peace with saying yes?</span></div> </div> <div class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"></div> <h1 class="gmail_default" style="color: #222222;"></h1> <div class="gmail_default"> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Sometimes saying <span style="color: #ff0000;"><strong>‘NO’</strong></span> is the most kind, caring, thoughtful, honest and compassionate thing you can do for yourself and another.<strong> </strong> <em><strong>If saying ‘yes’ to someone is going to ravage or destroy your healthy personal boundaries, your standards or your connection to your instincts or intuition say ‘no’</strong></em>. </span></div> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <div class="gmail_default"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/coaching/basic-coaching/" rel="attachment wp-att-5502"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5502" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/solar-plexus-modern-day-wise-woman.jpg" alt="solar plexus modern day wise woman" width="645" height="505" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/solar-plexus-modern-day-wise-woman.jpg 1024w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/solar-plexus-modern-day-wise-woman-600x469.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/solar-plexus-modern-day-wise-woman-300x235.jpg 300w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></div> <p class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"> </span>Working with a <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a style="color: #1155cc;" href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/about-me/"><strong>self-love coach</strong></a></span> and <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a style="color: #1155cc;" href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/energy-healing/"><strong>energy healer</strong></a></span> is one of the very best ways to work through unresolved emotional issues (likely developed in your teen years) to rid yourself of blocked energy or the disease to please for good.</p> <h4 class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"> </span></h4> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Remember people can only treat you as well as you treat yourself. So treat yourself with the utmost love and respect. <strong>You deserve the very best!</strong></span></div> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"> </span></div> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"> </span></div> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Thanks for reading!</span></div> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Be Well.</span></div> <h4 class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">xoxo Renee</span></h4> </div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>https://reneemullingslewis.com/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item> <title>HOW TO ATTRACT POSITIVE PEOPLE</title> <link>https://reneemullingslewis.com/how-to-reliably-attract-positive-people/</link> <comments>https://reneemullingslewis.com/how-to-reliably-attract-positive-people/#respond</comments> <dc:creator><![CDATA[Renee Mullings-Lewis]]></dc:creator> <pubDate>Wed, 30 Apr 2014 00:52:00 +0000</pubDate> <category><![CDATA[mind]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Self-Love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[attraction]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Coscmic Fire]]></category> <category><![CDATA[dare to be fearlessly you]]></category> <category><![CDATA[energy]]></category> <category><![CDATA[energy healing]]></category> <category><![CDATA[love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[love coach]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Modern Day Wise Woman]]></category> <category><![CDATA[reiki]]></category> <category><![CDATA[relationships]]></category> <category><![CDATA[renee mullings-lewis]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-empowerment]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[spirituality]]></category> <category><![CDATA[vulnerability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[wise woman]]></category> <guid isPermaLink="false">http://reneemullingslewis.com/?p=5357</guid> <description><![CDATA[Whether you’re looking for an awesome tour guide, a new bosom buddy, the ultimate tenant, a chill taxi driver or the ‘one’, your personal energy will play one of the biggest roles in determining who you attract. For the purposes of this article I will define your personal energy as your ‘mindset‘ – that is, […]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<h1 style="text-align: center;"></h1> <p style="text-align: left;">Whether you’re looking for an awesome tour guide, a new bosom buddy, the ultimate tenant, a chill taxi driver or the ‘one’, your <strong>personal</strong> <strong>energy</strong> will play one of the biggest roles in determining who you attract.</p> <p style="text-align: left;">For the purposes of this article I will define your personal energy as your ‘<em>mindset</em>‘ – that is, your thoughts, how you perceive things, how you feel and the things that you do. I can’t tell you how often I sit and chat with people, or I’m coaching a client, and they stare back at me completely bewildered about how they could have attracted Mr. or Mrs. X into their life.</p> <h4 style="text-align: left;"></h4> <h4 style="text-align: left;"><strong><span style="color: #880080;">Here’s the life lesson </span></strong></h4> <p style="text-align: left;">What you need to know is this… Every person in your life (past, present and future)… The ones that<em> broke your heart</em>, stole your dreams and dashed your hopes; and the ones that lifted you higher, showed you the way, <em>gave you a reason to live</em>, taught you to love and helped you heal… <strong>You attracted them…</strong></p> <p style="text-align: left;">You will either be filled with tears of sorrow, tears of joy, tears of freedom, tears of rage or maybe all of the above when you really ‘get’, process and digest this… You attracted them…</p> <h4 style="text-align: left;"><strong><span style="color: #880080;">Feel your energy right now…</span></strong></h4> <p style="text-align: left;">Even as I write this… I can feel a well of emotions flooding my body, rushing to my finger tips, on to the keys… Wow…</p> <p style="text-align: left;"><strong>Let’s pause and take a breath right here…</strong> Don’t hurry on to the next paragraph. Just stay here. Connect to your breath while focusing on the image of the woman here… When you can feel that breath is slow, balanced and steady keep reading.</p> <figure id="attachment_5358" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-5358" style="width: 645px" class="wp-caption aligncenter"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/how-to-attract-positive-people/how-to-attract-positive-people-modern-day-wise-woman/" rel="attachment wp-att-5358"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="wp-image-5358" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/How-To-Attract-Positive-People-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman.jpg" alt="take a deep breath right here" width="645" height="445" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/How-To-Attract-Positive-People-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman.jpg 750w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/How-To-Attract-Positive-People-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman-600x414.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/How-To-Attract-Positive-People-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman-300x207.jpg 300w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a><figcaption id="caption-attachment-5358" class="wp-caption-text">Focus on this image. Take a deep breath in. And a deep breath out. Repeat 3x.</figcaption></figure> <h4 style="text-align: left;"><strong><span style="color: #880080;">Okay</span></strong></h4> <p style="text-align: left;">So now I we have laid the foundation for the rest of the lesson. <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Let’s take a moment now to further explore the four aspects of personal energy or mindset that I mentioned earlier: your thoughts, how you perceive things, how you feel and the things that you do</span>. Let’s get clear on what it really takes to be positive and as such attract positive into our lives. Click on the video below to receive the full lesson now.</p> <p> </p> <p><iframe loading="lazy" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/o4v5fuBzLa8" width="640" height="360" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen="allowfullscreen"></iframe></p> <p style="text-align: left;"><strong><em>What we think shapes our world. What we perceive colours it. How we feel determines if we are simply living or if we are alive. What we do changes everything.</em></strong></p> <h4 style="text-align: left;"><strong><span style="color: #880080;">We are always attracting someone</span></strong></h4> <p style="text-align: left;">At any and every given moment, we are always attracting someone into our lives whether we like it or not; whether we are aware of it or not. When you truly begin to understand the fundamentals of how personal energy works, you can begin to be to reliably attract positive people into your life and keep the negative one’s on the fringes.</p> <p style="text-align: left;">There are those who choose to live their life as if they are a bystander – waiting for opportunities or people to drift in and out of their life. But that’s not the kind of life that I want to live. <strong>And if you are reading this vlog</strong>,.. Well… I know that you don’t want to live that way either.</p> <h4 style="text-align: left;"></h4> <p><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/how-to-attract-positive-people/how-to-attract-positive-people-modern-day-wise-woman-4/" rel="attachment wp-att-5366"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5366" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/How-To-Attract-Positive-People-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman-4.jpg" alt="How To Attract Positive People Modern Day Wise Woman 4" width="645" height="387" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/How-To-Attract-Positive-People-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman-4.jpg 650w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/How-To-Attract-Positive-People-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman-4-600x360.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/How-To-Attract-Positive-People-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman-4-300x180.jpg 300w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></p> <h4 style="text-align: left;"></h4> <h4 style="text-align: left;"><strong>So let’s rise up.</strong></h4> <p style="text-align: left;">Let’s stand for something way bigger.</p> <p style="text-align: left;">And be,</p> <p style="text-align: left;">Powerful.</p> <p style="text-align: left;">Knowing that loving and living fully,</p> <p style="text-align: left;">is,</p> <p style="text-align: left;">our <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><span style="color: #fb00b0; text-decoration: underline;">birthright</span></span>.</p> <p style="text-align: left;">And love… Our natural state.</p> <p style="text-align: left;">We have the God given power to attract whatever we desire.</p> <p style="text-align: left;">The future is ours. Yours and mine… Happy attracting Dear One!</p> <h2 style="text-align: left;">xoxo Renee</h2> <p>P.s. Hungry for more? Inquire about <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/coaching/cosmic-fire-program/">Cosmic Fire</a> </span>or <a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/coaching/basic-coaching/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Basic Coaching</span></a> spots are limited, so don’t delay <img src="https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/15.0.3/72x72/1f609.png" alt="😉" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" /></p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>https://reneemullingslewis.com/how-to-reliably-attract-positive-people/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item> <title>HOW TO GET YOUR POWER BACK</title> <link>https://reneemullingslewis.com/how-to-stop-complaining-and-get-your-power-back/</link> <comments>https://reneemullingslewis.com/how-to-stop-complaining-and-get-your-power-back/#respond</comments> <dc:creator><![CDATA[Renee Mullings-Lewis]]></dc:creator> <pubDate>Sun, 27 Apr 2014 20:09:24 +0000</pubDate> <category><![CDATA[mind]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Self-Love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Coscmic Fire]]></category> <category><![CDATA[energy healing]]></category> <category><![CDATA[love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[love coach]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Modern Day Wise Woman]]></category> <category><![CDATA[reiki]]></category> <category><![CDATA[renee mullings-lewis]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[spirituality]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Toronto]]></category> <category><![CDATA[vulnerability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[wise woman]]></category> <category><![CDATA[women]]></category> <guid isPermaLink="false">http://reneemullingslewis.com/?p=5336</guid> <description><![CDATA[7.2 billion… There are 7.2 billion people in the world right now all living. Thinking. Being… All trying to figure it out… And by ‘it’ I mean life… Each of us with our own unique point of view… Complaining is inevitable; and we all do it. But what is all of this complaining doing to […]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align: left;">7.2 billion… There are 7.2 billion people in the world right now all living. Thinking. Being… All trying to figure it out… And by ‘it’ I mean life… Each of us with our own unique point of view… Complaining is inevitable; and we all do it. <em>But what is all of this complaining doing to you?</em> What is this complaining doing to all of us?</p> <p> </p> <h4><strong><span style="color: #880080;">You are human</span></strong></h4> <p>I used to complain all the time. And the truth is I really didn’t know any better then. We are raised in a society that teaches us that it’s normal to dwell on the past, to judge people, to allow our pain to predict our future, to compare ourselves to others, to push through our emotions, to ‘work hard’, to be believe that martyrdom is holy – to disconnect from our true selves.</p> <p><strong>What most of us don’t realize is that when we complain we give away our power.</strong> We hollow our hearts. We walk around, an empty shell of a human; and instead of spreading love, we spread fear. Or some version of fear – anger, jealousy, envy, shame, guilt, hate… If you <em><span style="text-decoration: underline;">start to play close attention</span></em>, you can actually <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em>feel the vital life force energy</em></span> drain from your body when you are complaining or when someone else is complaining to you.</p> <p> </p> <h4><strong><span style="color: #880080;">You are the creator of your life</span></strong></h4> <p>My intention today is <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em>not</em></span> to make you, myself or anyone else ‘wrong’ for complaining, but rather to reconnect us all to our true selves. To have you, me, all of us remember that life is never happening to us – <strong>we are creating life…</strong> With every thought, every word, every glance, every touch and every connection, we are creating life; and it happens in an instant.</p> <p> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/how-to-stop-complaining-and-get-your-power-back/how-to-stop-complaining-get-your-power-back-modern-day-wise-woman/" rel="attachment wp-att-5343"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5343" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/How-To-Stop-Complaining-Get-Your-Power-Back-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman.jpg" alt="How To Stop Complaining & Get Your Power Back Modern Day Wise Woman" width="645" height="384" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/How-To-Stop-Complaining-Get-Your-Power-Back-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman.jpg 1112w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/How-To-Stop-Complaining-Get-Your-Power-Back-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman-600x357.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/How-To-Stop-Complaining-Get-Your-Power-Back-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman-300x179.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/How-To-Stop-Complaining-Get-Your-Power-Back-Modern-Day-Wise-Woman-1024x610.jpg 1024w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></p> <p> </p> <h4><strong>You are not a victim…</strong></h4> <p>Ever… Hold your head up high…</p> <p>You are at your core the sweetest soul budding and blooming in the rain.</p> <p>You are powerful beyond measure…</p> <p>And this is your life.</p> <p><strong>This is your time right now.</strong></p> <p>How do you want to spend your time?</p> <p> </p> <h4><strong><span style="color: #880080;">Are you with me?</span></strong></h4> <p>I say, let’s put an end to human suffering; and where it begins is with ourselves. <strong>It begins with self-love.</strong> It begins with unshackling ourselves from the stories, situations, circumstances and people who have imprisoned our hearts and souls for far too long. Watch the video I created to learn further about the emotional, spiritual and energetic impacts that complaining has on all of us.</p> <p> </p> <p><iframe loading="lazy" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/FANoM3hghy8" width="640" height="360" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen="allowfullscreen"></iframe></p> <p> </p> <p>My one wish for you today is that you read this and feel even more connected to your own natural beauty, divine grace and inner strength. Complaining is not bad. It is a gentle nudge from the universe to look a little deeper… <strong>To explore your Self…</strong></p> <p>Happy exploring my friend.</p> <h2>xoxo Renee</h2> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>https://reneemullingslewis.com/how-to-stop-complaining-and-get-your-power-back/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item> <title>HOW TO STOP SABOTAGING YOURSELF</title> <link>https://reneemullingslewis.com/self-sabotage-how-to-stop-now/</link> <comments>https://reneemullingslewis.com/self-sabotage-how-to-stop-now/#respond</comments> <dc:creator><![CDATA[Renee Mullings-Lewis]]></dc:creator> <pubDate>Mon, 31 Mar 2014 01:03:27 +0000</pubDate> <category><![CDATA[Self-Love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[soul]]></category> <category><![CDATA[coaching program]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Coscmic Fire]]></category> <category><![CDATA[energy]]></category> <category><![CDATA[energy healing]]></category> <category><![CDATA[love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[not alone]]></category> <category><![CDATA[reiki]]></category> <category><![CDATA[relationships]]></category> <category><![CDATA[renee mullings-lewis]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-empowerment]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-help]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love coaching]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love training]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Self-Sabotage]]></category> <category><![CDATA[spirituality]]></category> <category><![CDATA[surrender]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Toronto]]></category> <category><![CDATA[vulnerability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[wise woman]]></category> <category><![CDATA[women]]></category> <guid isPermaLink="false">http://reneemullingslewis.com/?p=5159</guid> <description><![CDATA[One of the most common questions that I get asked is ,“Renee what can I do to stop self-sabotaging myself?” I used to be a chronic self-sabotager. You know, the kind of person who could never see a goal through to the end, had nine million projects on the go all at the same time […]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align: left;">One of the most common questions that I get asked is ,<strong>“Renee what can I do to stop self-sabotaging myself?</strong>” I used to be a chronic self-sabotager. You know, the kind of person who could never see a goal through to the end, had nine million projects on the go all at the same time and tried to convince myself that “ah it’s no big deal’ if I quit and started something new.</p> <p><strong>As a self-love coach I make it my first order to business to research and get up close and personal with those little gremlins</strong> – those pesky things that we say to ourselves, the negative behaviours and hidden beliefs that literally stop us from whole heartedly going after what we truly want.</p> <h4></h4> <h4><span style="color: #880080;">Watch this video now to learn how you can begin tame those gremlins, stop sabotaging yourself and start making your dreams a solid reality now.</span></h4> <p> </p> <p><iframe loading="lazy" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/avWSjUQN32M" width="640" height="360" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen="allowfullscreen"></iframe></p> <p><strong>You really can make your dreams come true.</strong> Knowledge is power. Today you are a little bit closer than you were yesterday. So don’t give up.</p> <h4>xo Renee</h4> <p> </p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>https://reneemullingslewis.com/self-sabotage-how-to-stop-now/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item> <title>HOW TO ATTRACT MIRACLES DAILY</title> <link>https://reneemullingslewis.com/stop-trashing-your-miracles/</link> <comments>https://reneemullingslewis.com/stop-trashing-your-miracles/#respond</comments> <dc:creator><![CDATA[Renee Mullings-Lewis]]></dc:creator> <pubDate>Mon, 24 Mar 2014 16:44:33 +0000</pubDate> <category><![CDATA[mind]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Self-Love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Coscmic Fire]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Courage]]></category> <category><![CDATA[divine]]></category> <category><![CDATA[energy]]></category> <category><![CDATA[energy healing]]></category> <category><![CDATA[fear]]></category> <category><![CDATA[love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[love coach]]></category> <category><![CDATA[miracles]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Modern Day Wise Woman]]></category> <category><![CDATA[reiki]]></category> <category><![CDATA[relationships]]></category> <category><![CDATA[renee mullings-lewis]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-empowerment]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-help]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[share]]></category> <category><![CDATA[spirituality]]></category> <category><![CDATA[vulnerability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[wise woman]]></category> <category><![CDATA[women]]></category> <guid isPermaLink="false">http://reneemullingslewis.com/?p=5134</guid> <description><![CDATA[You are a miracle. But you don’t always act like it. Why is that? Some mornings you wake up feeling like you’re on top of the world… Like anything is possible… And then some mornings you wake up feeling lost… Completely bewildered by the state of your own life… So what does it all mean?   […]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<h1 style="text-align: center;"></h1> <p><strong>You are a miracle.</strong> But you don’t always act like it. Why is that? Some mornings you wake up feeling like you’re on top of the world… Like anything is possible… And then some mornings you wake up feeling lost… Completely bewildered by the state of your own life… So what does it all mean?</p> <p> </p> <p><strong>‘Why is this happening to me?’ ‘Where do I go from here?’ ‘Who am I?’</strong></p> <p> </p> <p>I have found that these are the very kinds of questions that we ask ourselves when we have just experienced a miracle or we are teetering on the cusp of one that is about to happen.</p> <p>Albert Einstein once said, <strong><span style="color: #fb00b0;">” There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.</span><span style="color: #fb00b0;">“</span> </strong>I adore this quote. But let me be very honest. Sometimes, I wish that I had never stumbled across this quote and allowed it to unearth that wild fire deep inside of me… Because the minute I accepted that everything, (yes literally everything), that happens in my life is a miracle… I could never ever again pretend that Universe didn’t have my back… Nor could I ever again, try to convince myself that it wasn’t conspiring for me to win.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong>You see, most of us spend our lives trying to ‘get over’ the past. What drives this behaviour is the fact that <span style="text-decoration: underline;">most of us are still trashing our miracles.</span> Watch this video now to learn more.</strong></p> <p><iframe loading="lazy" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/x4ShGlp7WX8" width="640" height="360" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen="allowfullscreen"></iframe></p> <p> </p> <p>We label past devastations rich with life lessons, like the day your child died, or the night that your house and all of your belongings burned down to the ground, or the day that you realized your business was never going to work, or the day that your husband told you he was leaving you after 20 years of marriage as <strong>‘bad luck, ‘bad karma’ or something that ‘should never have happened’</strong>.</p> <p> </p> <p>It is completely understandable and natural to feel this way when awful things happen… And you absolutely need time to feel hurt, angry, confused, frustrated and upset. <strong>My only wish, is for you to know that you don’t have to get stuck in this pain..</strong>. Because if you stay here, you can never heal, grow or move forward.</p> <p>And if you continue to think this way you will never ‘get over’ the past. You will always play the role of the slighted victim… Fighting for some form of self-created, imaginary justice, that kind that only exists in your version of the story…<span style="color: #fb00b0;"> <strong>Instead of being the <a href="https://www.facebook.com/moderndaywisewoman"><span style="color: #fb00b0;">Modern Day Wise Woman</span></a>, The King- that untamed, passionate, fierce, fully expressed, lover, light and trailblazer in the world.</strong></span> The one that <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>you know</strong></span> in your heart of hearts you know<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong> you are</strong> <strong>destined</strong></span> to <strong>BE</strong>.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong><span style="color: #880080;">Seeing everything in your life as a miracle is your access to freedom.</span></strong></p> <p> </p> <p>If you’ve been asking for some sort of sign, for help or for a message from the Universe about what you should do with regards to a certain situation, this is it. <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Stop looking.</strong></span> Seriously stop looking… <img src="https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/15.0.3/72x72/1f642.png" alt="🙂" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" /> Watch, listen and learn. XOXO Renee</p> <p> </p> <p><strong>P.s. If you or anyone you know is going through a particularly challenging time in their life right now please invite them to register today for the <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/cosmic-fire-program/">Cosmic Fire</a></span> Program. I can help.</strong></p> <p>P.p.s. Want more? Follow us on Facebook by going to our <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="https://www.facebook.com/moderndaywisewoman">Modern Day Wise Woman Fan Page</a></span> and hitting the <strong>‘like’</strong> button. We post there daily!! <img src="https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/15.0.3/72x72/1f642.png" alt="🙂" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" /></p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>https://reneemullingslewis.com/stop-trashing-your-miracles/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item> <title>DON’T WORRY BE HAPPY NOW</title> <link>https://reneemullingslewis.com/dont-worry-be-happy/</link> <comments>https://reneemullingslewis.com/dont-worry-be-happy/#respond</comments> <dc:creator><![CDATA[Renee Mullings-Lewis]]></dc:creator> <pubDate>Mon, 17 Mar 2014 13:02:06 +0000</pubDate> <category><![CDATA[mind]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Self-Love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[attraction]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Coscmic Fire]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Courage]]></category> <category><![CDATA[diet]]></category> <category><![CDATA[divine]]></category> <category><![CDATA[energy healing]]></category> <category><![CDATA[epic]]></category> <category><![CDATA[friends]]></category> <category><![CDATA[keys]]></category> <category><![CDATA[love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[not alone]]></category> <category><![CDATA[reiki]]></category> <category><![CDATA[relationships]]></category> <category><![CDATA[renee mullings-lewis]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-empowerment]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-help]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love coaching]]></category> <category><![CDATA[share]]></category> <category><![CDATA[signs]]></category> <category><![CDATA[spiritual]]></category> <category><![CDATA[spirituality]]></category> <category><![CDATA[surrender]]></category> <category><![CDATA[vulnerability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[wise woman]]></category> <category><![CDATA[women]]></category> <guid isPermaLink="false">http://reneemullingslewis.com/?p=5121</guid> <description><![CDATA[DON’T WORRY BE HAPPY Today we’re going to keep it nice and simple. Every now and then, we all need those days where give our minds a little break from all of the ‘how to’s’ and ‘step to’ to be this or that and give ourselves some much needed time to just RELAX and PLAY. […]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #fb00b0;">DON’T WORRY BE HAPPY </span></h1> <p>Today we’re going to keep it nice and simple. Every now and then, we all need those days where give our minds a little break from all of the ‘how to’s’ and ‘step to’ to be this or that and give ourselves some much needed time to just <strong>RELAX</strong> and <strong>PLAY</strong>.</p> <p> </p> <h4><strong><span style="color: #880080;">Let this article be a little reminder to take some time to step away…</span></strong></h4> <p> </p> <p>Let this be a reminder to <strong>breath</strong> more deeply today.</p> <p>Let this be a reminder to <strong>laugh</strong> a little harder today.</p> <p>Let this be a reminder to allow your <strong>bare feet</strong> to enjoy the ground today.</p> <p>Let this be a reminder to go out and reconnect with <strong>nature</strong> today.</p> <p>Let this be a reminder to <strong>whistle or skip or hum</strong> today.</p> <p>Let this be a reminder to take a moment to <strong>feel the wind</strong> between your fingers and toes today.</p> <p>Let this be a reminder to listen to the deep echoes of your own <strong>heart beat </strong>today.</p> <p>Let this be a reminder to <strong>slow down</strong>…</p> <p>Let this be a reminder to just <strong>enjoy the momen</strong>t, as it is right now.</p> <p>Let this be a reminder to not worry just for today and <strong>be happy</strong>.</p> <p>Take a moment now to just sit in complete silence and <strong>be with yourself</strong>… Beautiful isn’t it?!</p> <p>Now that you’ve received these reminders <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>you have two choices</strong></span>. You can listen to them or you can ignore them.</p> <p>Today I’m choosing to not to worry and to be happy.</p> <p><span style="color: #880080;"><strong>Either way the choice is yours. </strong></span></p> <p>xo Renee</p> <p>P.s. if you care for more of these kinds of yummy self-love reminders come over and join us at <a href="https://www.facebook.com/moderndaywisewoman">Modern Day Wise Woman</a> on <a href="https://www.facebook.com">FACEBOOK.</a></p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>https://reneemullingslewis.com/dont-worry-be-happy/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> </channel> </rss>