<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss version="2.0" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:wfw="http://wellformedweb.org/CommentAPI/" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" xmlns:sy="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/syndication/" xmlns:slash="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/slash/" > <channel> <title>Modern Day Wise Woman</title> <atom:link href="https://reneemullingslewis.com/tag/anger/feed/" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml" /> <link>https://reneemullingslewis.com</link> <description>Renée Mullings-Lewis | Self-Love Coach & Intuitive Wise Woman </description> <lastBuildDate>Mon, 05 Oct 2015 07:32:28 +0000</lastBuildDate> <language>en-CA</language> <sy:updatePeriod> hourly </sy:updatePeriod> <sy:updateFrequency> 1 </sy:updateFrequency> <generator>https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2</generator> <item> <title>HOW TO STOP BEING ANGRY ALL THE TIME</title> <link>https://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/</link> <comments>https://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/#respond</comments> <dc:creator><![CDATA[Renee Mullings-Lewis]]></dc:creator> <pubDate>Mon, 23 Jun 2014 14:08:48 +0000</pubDate> <category><![CDATA[body]]></category> <category><![CDATA[mind]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Self-Love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[soul]]></category> <category><![CDATA[anger]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Coscmic Fire]]></category> <category><![CDATA[divine]]></category> <category><![CDATA[energy]]></category> <category><![CDATA[energy healing]]></category> <category><![CDATA[letting go of anger]]></category> <category><![CDATA[love coach]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Modern Day Wise Woman]]></category> <category><![CDATA[release anger]]></category> <category><![CDATA[renee mullings-lewis]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-empowerment]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-help]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[self-love coaching]]></category> <category><![CDATA[spirituality]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Toronto]]></category> <category><![CDATA[wise woman]]></category> <category><![CDATA[women]]></category> <guid isPermaLink="false">http://reneemullingslewis.com/?p=5644</guid> <description><![CDATA[Why we experience anger We experience unhealthy anger when our inherently peaceful state, is harassed, taunted, cajoled and tampered with by fear based thoughts driven by the Ego. Anytime that we are in a partnership with another human being (romantic, business or otherwise), we will inevitably experience anger. Anger is what I like to call […]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<h4 class="gmail_default"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/arguing-couples/" rel="attachment wp-att-5645"><img fetchpriority="high" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5645 size-full" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/arguing-couples.jpg" alt="release unhealthy anger now" width="640" height="426" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/arguing-couples.jpg 640w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/arguing-couples-600x399.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/arguing-couples-300x200.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px" /></a></h4> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <h4 class="gmail_default"><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Why we experience anger</span></strong></h4> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">We experience unhealthy anger when our inherently peaceful state, is harassed, taunted, cajoled and tampered with by fear based thoughts driven by the Ego. Anytime that we are in a partnership with another human being (romantic, business or otherwise), we will inevitably experience anger. Anger is what I like to call a KEI (key emotional indicator) – anger let’s you know immediately that something in your immediate surroundings, your life or within you is out of alignment and that whatever it is requires your immediate attention.</span></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <div class="gmail_default"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/scolded-girl/" rel="attachment wp-att-5646"><img decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5646" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/scolded-girl.jpg" alt="release your unhealthy anger now" width="645" height="430" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/scolded-girl.jpg 1236w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/scolded-girl-600x400.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/scolded-girl-300x200.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/scolded-girl-1024x683.jpg 1024w" sizes="(max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <h4 class="gmail_default"><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Not all anger is bad</span></strong></h4> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Anger, like all of the colours within the spectrum, can be beautiful and useful. And in fact, anger will often catapult us into spiritual experiences that force us to grow – valuable experiences that we may not have found otherwise… But when anger is misused, abused or ignored it is dangerous. At best it stagnates and stunts our growth; and at worst it destroys us. You see the problem is that most us unfortunately were never taught how to recognize, understand and express our anger is a healthy spiritual way. Instead we were taught to be ‘nice’, ‘play fair’, ‘share’, ‘be good, ‘ stop shouting’ and ‘stop whining’ and ‘ be quiet’…</span></div> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"> </span></div> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Over the years this constant suppression of anger blurs our sense of self, alters our personality, taints our view of the world and creates very noticeable symptoms in your physical and emotional being.</span></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <div class="gmail_default"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/midnight-snacking/" rel="attachment wp-att-5648"><img decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5648" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/midnight-snacking.jpg" alt="midnight-snacking" width="645" height="403" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/midnight-snacking.jpg 1680w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/midnight-snacking-600x375.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/midnight-snacking-300x188.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/midnight-snacking-1024x640.jpg 1024w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/midnight-snacking-1600x1000.jpg 1600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/midnight-snacking-800x500.jpg 800w" sizes="(max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></div> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <h4 class="gmail_default"><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Symptoms of unhealthy anger</span></strong></h4> <ul> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Digestive issues.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Bladder related issues.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Insomnia.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Night eating/snacking.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Cancers – all kinds.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Sudden loss of sight.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Uncontrollable rage.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Miscarriage.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Fear of intimacy.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Rapid or excessive weight gain.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Difficulty making and keeping friends.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Heart conditions – heart attack/blockages.</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Dangerous sexual behaviour or violent sexual desires.</span></li> </ul> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <h4 class="gmail_default"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/ntk/" rel="attachment wp-att-5650"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5650" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/ntk.jpg" alt="ntk" width="645" height="484" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/ntk.jpg 3264w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/ntk-600x450.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/ntk-300x225.jpg 300w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/ntk-1024x768.jpg 1024w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></h4> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <h4 class="gmail_default"><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">The 4 steps you need to know</span></strong></h4> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"> </span></div> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">In today’s society, anger is most often used a weapon for combat when it was truly meant to be used a divine tool for love. If you are reading this article it is because you are ready to release your unhealthy anger now; and you are ready to learn new ways to process your anger powerfully and responsibly. This 4 step process is the process that I use with all of my clients and it is the starting point for you to begin to release any unhealthy anger you are walking around with today.</span></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"> </span></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <div class="gmail_default"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/bigstock-enjoyment-free-happy-woman-e-43000426/" rel="attachment wp-att-5649"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5649" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/bigstock-Enjoyment-free-happy-woman-e-43000426.jpg" alt="Release anger modern day wise woman" width="645" height="430" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/bigstock-Enjoyment-free-happy-woman-e-43000426.jpg 900w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/bigstock-Enjoyment-free-happy-woman-e-43000426-600x400.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/bigstock-Enjoyment-free-happy-woman-e-43000426-300x200.jpg 300w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <h4 class="gmail_default"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Modern Day Wise Woman Anger Filtration Process <img src="https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/15.0.3/72x72/2122.png" alt="™" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" /></span></strong></span></h4> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"><strong><span style="color: #800080;">1. Recognize your anger:</span></strong> Here what you want to do is begin to recognize the changes that happen in your body when you are angry. The more you are able to notice how your breathing changes, your body temperature changes and how you feel in your body when anger is arising the more you will be able to feel, express and process it responsibly.</span></div> <h4 class="gmail_default"></h4> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"><strong><span style="color: #800080;">2. Honour your anger: </span></strong><span style="color: #000000;">This is perhaps one of the most difficult steps. This step involves allowing yourself to feel angry without blaming yourself or anyone else involved in the situation. Here you want to just feel the anger. In most cases what people notice is that they aren’t really angry, but underneath it all, they are actually hurt or in pain. When you are finally able to feel the pain beyond the rage you are now ready to begin to release it.</span></span></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <h4 class="gmail_default"></h4> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"><strong><span style="color: #800080;">3. Express your anger: </span></strong><span style="color: #000000;">Now you are ready to express your anger. This step involves owning your own anger (your own experience) and now asking for the love and support of another human being to assist you in healing. Remember it isn’t your partner’s, your best friend’s, your boss’s, your parents (or anyone else’s) responsibilities to heal you or to take away your anger. Expressing your anger is an act of love that you give to yourself in the presence and partnership of another. And in doing so, regardless of what the other person says; or if they validate your experience; or not; you are still whole and complete for yourself. </span></span></div> <h4 class="gmail_default"></h4> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <div class="gmail_default"><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;"><strong><span style="color: #800080;">4. Redirect your anger: </span></strong><span style="color: #800080;"><span style="color: #000000;">If you have successfully completed the first three steps in this process, you will notice that you feel lighter and that physiological symptoms of anger you were experiencing are beginning to dissipate. Awesome you’ve begun to successfully release the unhealthy anger. But now you need to ensure that anger that you let go of has been properly re-directed. You want to make sure that the person who helped you to release your anger isn’t now stuck carrying your anger. So wow that you’ve released some of your anger, you can now hold the space for them to release any residual anger that may be lingering for them. You want to ensure that as much anger as possible is filtered out until only love is present. </span></span></span></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <h1 class="gmail_default"></h1> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <div class="gmail_default"></div> <div class="gmail_default"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/meditation_pond_3/" rel="attachment wp-att-5652"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5652" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Meditation_Pond_3.jpg" alt="Meditation modern day wise woman" width="645" height="455" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Meditation_Pond_3.jpg 673w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Meditation_Pond_3-600x423.jpg 600w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Meditation_Pond_3-300x212.jpg 300w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></div> <h1></h1> <h4 class="gmail_default"><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Filter out and release your unhealthy anger regularly</span></strong></h4> <p><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Now that you have these 4 steps I strongly encourage you to practice them regularly or even daily if needed. Essentially what you are doing by practicing this 4 step process is filtering out the bits of anger that are no longer healthy or needed. Once all of the anger is successfully filtered and redirected you will no longer be ‘gripped’ by your anger. And the more you practice this process, the less you will experience unhealthy anger. Now please note, this does not mean that the situation you facing will magically correct itself… But what it does mean is that you will be able to face your situation with power and grace vs. behaving like an emotionally rabid dog, with no other strategies other than defend or attack.</span></p> <h1></h1> <p> </p> <p><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/energy-healing-therapy/" rel="attachment wp-att-5651"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-5651" src="http://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/energy-healing-therapy.jpg" alt="energy-healing-therapy" width="645" height="424" srcset="https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/energy-healing-therapy.jpg 525w, https://reneemullingslewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/energy-healing-therapy-300x197.jpg 300w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 645px) 100vw, 645px" /></a></p> <h1></h1> <p><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Work with an expert</span></strong></p> <p><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">If you are experiencing any of the symptoms listed above, or even if you feel totally fine but want a ‘spiritual check up’, I would also recommend that schedule a <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/energy-healing/reiki/">reiki session</a></span>, <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/energy-healing/">energy healing session</a></span> or <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://reneemullingslewis.com/coaching/">coaching session</a></span> with an expert who specializes in self-love healing, self-relization and emotional balancing. Working with a trained professional will allow you to accelerate your healing process. Remember you don’t have to do this alone. Seek support today so you can feel better and start living better now. </span></p> <p><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">Lots of love. Be Well.</span></p> <h4><span style="font-family: verdana, sans-serif;">xoxo Renee</span></h4> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>https://reneemullingslewis.com/rid-yourself-of-unhealthy-anger-now/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> </channel> </rss>